The Sisterhood Wound: Why You’re Afraid to Speak, Lead, or Shine

Why Women Stay Silent: The Hidden Wound No One Talks About

There’s a grief that lies in our bones, which we rarely name.

It’s the ache of betrayal without a blade. A silencing that doesn’t come from force, but from side-eyes, group chats, and a quiet withdrawal of warmth the moment you dare to become too much—too loud, too visible, too different.

This is the Sisterhood Wound.

And whether you were shamed by a friend for sharing too much, rejected by a group when you dared to lead, or quietly punished for shining brighter than what was “allowed,” this wound shapes more of our self-worth than we realize.

What Is the Sisterhood Wound?

The Sisterhood Wound is a collective trauma rooted in centuries of competition, scarcity, and betrayal among women and feminine beings. It shows up when:

    •    You hesitate to speak your truth in a group.

    •    You play small so others won’t feel uncomfortable.

    •    You avoid leadership to avoid being targeted.

    •    You distrust other women’s motives—especially in spiritual or professional circles.

    •    You shrink after being praised, fearing the backlash.

Historically, our power as women was dangerous. Over time, in countless ways, it was quietly targeted and diminished. To survive, women were often forced to betray each other. Think: witch trials, arranged marriages, inheritance laws, exclusion from education, etc. Survival meant loyalty to patriarchy over sisterhood. And despite our many advancements, that ancestral scar still echoes today. And if you are a man and you’re reading this, and identify with it, it’s likely because you carry a similar community wound. Sadly, these are far more common than we think. And they are important to recognize, name, and heal, because without doing so, they will hold you back and replay in different variants, over and over again in your life.

Personal Signs You’re Holding This Wound

    •    You second-guess yourself after sharing something vulnerable.

    •    You feel “energetically punished” when you set healthy boundaries.

    •    You fear being seen, even if you crave it.

    •    You’ve felt scapegoated in friend groups.

    •    You shrink your own magic and magnetism so others don’t feel insecure.

Let me say this clearly: none of this means you’re broken. It means your nervous system has learned to associate safety with invisibility—and that can be healed.

When This Wound Shows Up in Community

Recently, (story shared within the Sovereign Path Series), I witnessed this dynamic unfold in real time.

What began as a sacred space for growth and initiation slowly revealed fractures beneath the surface—moments where others bypassed hard truths, betrayed private trust, stood with a leader even if it went against their gut instincts, or quietly silenced one another’s voices.

Because when the Sisterhood Wound is active inside a community, it creates fertile ground for control, confusion, and silence.

Some of us questioned ourselves:

“Was I too much?”

“Did I misread the energy?”

“Is it safer to stay quiet than risk conflict?”

Others felt pressured to conform to the collective story, fearing exile if they dared to speak against it.

Why This Happens in Group Dynamics:

1. The Group Mindset - Why We Stay Quiet

When we sense conflict, exclusion, or betrayal within a group, most people don’t act from their highest selves - they act from survival. The nervous system reads rejection or confrontation as a threat. This triggers what psychologists call fawning (appeasing), freezing (shutting down), or mirroring (aligning with the dominant voice to avoid exile). And in spiritual spaces or other groups centered around healing, spirituality, or personal growth, where we expect safety and authenticity, this can often look like:

• Staying silent rather than risking being seen as “the problem”

• Siding with the most charismatic voice to avoid being targeted

• Self-betraying (“I’m fine, it’s fine”) while quietly collapsing inside

• Bypassing harm with “love and light” language (or other superficial stories of false community or celebration) to maintain the illusion of harmony

This isn’t weakness. It’s wiring.

Our ancestors learned that exile from the tribe meant death. And our nervous systems still carry that memory.

2. How Manipulators Exploit This Wound

Trust me when I say, a manipulative leader doesn’t always look like a tyrant or a readily visible person you can easily peg. More often than not, they appear supportive, magnetic, and benevolent on the surface. But underneath, they’re studying the group, sensing vulnerabilities, and using our longing to belong as leverage.

Some common tactics:

• Reframing Dissent as Betrayal -

Anyone who questions the narrative gets labeled as “negative”, “unspiritual”, simply “doesn’t understand”, or is “not in alignment”. This is intentional - it weaponizes the Sisterhood Wound - making others fear becoming the next exile. Healthy leaders aren’t afraid or threatened of respectful discord, curious exploration, or discussions that open a collective mindset or group perspective. They genuinely want to learn from each other, support each other, and support the greater good of the collective.

• Creating Conditional Safety

Approval, access, or visibility within the group is tied (usually subtly) to obedience. Those who comply are “chosen”, “seen”, or validated in some way. Those who challenge are usually subtly pulled out of positions of influence or iced over. If you are in a group with subtle or overt control dynamics, rethink the psychological health of that community. Healthy communities support your psychological safety - they encourage you to respectfully share opinions, questions, and wins. There is no hidden rivalry or competition.; they cultivate a culture of genuine camaraderie.

• Controlling the Story

When harm happens, the manipulator reframes it so they remain the benevolent guide and others are blamed, dismissed, or doubted. Or, other methods, such as triangulation is used to seed multiple storylines and create conflict and control through interpersonal dynamics. Over time, this erodes trust - but the illusion of harmony keeps people quiet. Respectful discord is healthy. Mature people understand that there will always be differences of opinion and that no one person is ever without error. A healthy leader understands the need to hold compassionate truth and to also let energy naturally ebb and flow. They cultivate a culture dynamic of openness, compassion, synergy, and respect. The human experience will never be perfect, nor will your spiritual path. And healthy leaders understand perfection and control are not the goal.

• Exploiting Spiritual Bypassing

You may hear phrases like “we’re all mirrors”, “you’re being triggered”, “this points to an unhealed wound”, “you’re being offered a lesson”, “don’t focus on negativity”, “we don’t need to go into the shadow - we’ve transcended that”, “focus on your higher timeline”, “this is sacred work -its not for everyone”, etc. Underneath all of it, the manipulator leverages one unspoken fear: “If you challenge me, you will lose your belonging.” And because the Sisterhood Wound (or some other community wound that you hold) already tells us “being seen isn’t safe”, we comply, collapse, or retreat - even when something feels deeply wrong on a subconscious level. Healthy leaders understand life is cyclical - we all have seasons that include challenges, lessons, and dark nights of the soul as well as beautiful seasons of abundance, flow, and ease. A good spiritual mentor is there to help guide you into sitting in your discomfort, unearthing what rises to be witnessed and healed, and helping to compassionately hold space and support you through that process.

3. Why We Turn On Ourselves Instead of Speaking Up

Here’s the deepest layer of psychology in all of this: When conflict or harm happens, we often self-betray before we challenge the group.

Why?

• Attachment>Authenticity

Our nervous system is wired to protect connection first. We would rather suppress our truth than to risk rejection.

• Inherited Scarcity

We’ve internalized the belief that safe, supportive, aligned communities are rare. We cling tightly to the one we have, even if it wounds us. Or, if we suffer from any kind of abandonment wound around community or “family”, this may show up in a similar fashion, as a fear and scarcity wound, if our sense of belonging is subconsciously threatened.

• Trauma Conditioning

Many of us grew up in dynamics where love was conditional - so we normalize subtle forms of manipulation, exclusion, or control.

• Ego + Self Protection

Sometimes we turn on ourselves instead of speaking up because our ego wants to protect us from feeling foolish. It whispers, “Don’t admit you were wrong, don’t show you were fooled.” At its root, ego is trauma-born - it once kept us safe when harm was very real. But left unchecked, integrated, and fully healed - what once protected us can now limit us. Because here’s the truth: admitting we were deceived isn’t weakness - it’s courage. Every time we choose honesty over ego, we reclaim our power, honor ourselves, and free ourselves to grow. True strength is choosing authenticity over ego, clarity over illusion, and ourselves always over any misplaced fear. Every time we do, we reclaim our own sovereign power and step into growth.

Sovereignty is the Antidote

But, while these moments were painful— they were also clarifying.

Because they exposed the trap of the Sisterhood Wound inside group spaces:

We silence ourselves to belong, then abandon ourselves in the process.

And this is wildly dangerous. And far more slippery and subtle than you might imagine.

The turning point comes when you name what is happening - inside and around you. You use your discernment and listen to your body’s whisper when something feels off or misaligned, you choose yourself and healthy boundaries, and you reclaim your sovereignty. Because these moments you experienced reveal where sovereignty begins:

not in controlling others,

not in bypassing discomfort,

but in choosing truth over belonging. Time and time again.

In recognizing that your belonging starts when you claim yourself - because your sovereignty is held within you - it is not held externally in someone else’s approval or control. True leadership, true sisterhood, true community - they never require bypassing your instincts or compromising your truth.

The gift of this ordeal is seeing, with clarity, the pattern for what it is. The Sisterhood Wound is not just your wound—it’s ours collectively. Naming it helps us stop internalizing the shame and start breaking the cycle together. It helps us to start recognizing this wound and taking action directly to heal it. And manipulation always loses its power when you step into sovereignty and clarity - because clarity cannot be controlled.

How This Wound Protects Itself

When unhealed, this wound tends to recycle through the same behaviors:

    •    Bypassing: Pretending harmony exists while ignoring harm.

    •    Betrayal: Sharing one story publicly, another behind closed doors.

    •    Silencing: Withdrawing connection when someone speaks a truth that’s uncomfortable.

These aren’t signs of weakness. They’re survival strategies rooted in centuries of fear.

But sovereignty asks us to pause, name them, and choose a new response.

Moving Through the Ordeal

Healing this wound isn’t about going back to how things were before. It’s about stepping into a deeper truth:

    •    That you don’t have to dim your light to belong.

    •    That your voice is not a threat—it’s medicine. And you are meant to speak it boldly.

    •    That healthy boundaries and clarity create more real connection, not less.

This is the work of sovereignty:

Choosing authenticity over acceptance.

Choosing discernment over illusion.

Choosing your soul’s truth even when it costs you temporary belonging.

Why Healing This Wound Matters

This isn’t just about friendship.

Healing the Sisterhood Wound is what frees your voice, ignites your leadership, and unlocks your legacy. Because if you’re still afraid to shine in front of women - or any group or community, you’ll subconsciously sabotage your own success.

Until you repair this fracture, you may:

    •    Resist mentorship or community.

    •    Avoid collaborations out of mistrust.

    •    Stay small to avoid being resented.

• Avoid opportunities out of fear of being misunderstood.

• Avoid true intimacy and connection with others.

This is not your fault. But it is yours to shift.

Re-Parenting the Sisterhood Wound

You don’t need to wait for an apology or the perfect circle to begin healing. You can become your own safe witness.

Here are a few sacred self-repair tools:

1. Name the First Memory

Close your eyes and reflect. When was the first time another girl or woman made you feel “too much”? Name her. Name the moment. And speak this aloud:

“You didn’t know how to hold my light. That wasn’t my fault. I release all judgement around this and reclaim my power.”

2. Daily Nervous System Affirmation

Say this to yourself as you prepare to speak, post, or lead:

“It’s safe to be seen. It’s safe to be powerful. I choose love over fear, truth over silence.”

3. Mirror Practice

Look yourself in the eye and say:

“I trust you to speak boldly and speak the truth. You are always safe. I have your back.”

Journal Prompts for Integration

    •    When have I silenced myself to keep the peace? What did that cost me?

    •    Who did I give my power to, and why?

• Where have I traded authenticity for belonging?

    •    What am I most afraid will happen if I let myself shine fully?

    •    Where do I still crave approval or validation from others?

    •    What kind of sisterhood feels safe, sacred, and aligned for me now?

You are not alone in this ache. What you’ve carried is part of a much larger story - one woven through generations of women taught to compete, conform, survive, and stay small. But this is the turning point. Every time you speak your truth, choose your voice, and take up space, you break the old spell and create a new possibility for all of us.

Your Light Is a Catalyst, Not a Threat

Your voice, your vision, your visibility—they’re not betrayals of the collective. They’re medicine. They’re invitations for others to rise.

The Sisterhood Wound taught us to fear each other. It embedded this fear.

But your healing teaches you to belong to yourself—and in doing so, to also belong to others who are ready to love you without condition or control.

It’s time to befriend your own brilliance.

To boldly speak the truth.

To shine unabashedly.

To lead with integrity, radiance, and grounded humility.

Together we do this.

Not with fake and ill supported threads, but with hand and soul bounded celebration - holding and uplifting each other.

Because as one of us heals and shines, we encourage our sister next to us, to do the same.

And together, that is how we support healing and true change.

I’ve felt the sting of this wound myself - many times in my life and often wondered where its root was held. I’ve sat in many circles where I wanted so badly to belong, only to feel invisible, dismissed, or even subtly undermined. I used to think the problem was me. But over time, I realized these patterns weren’t about my worth - or even about my confidence - they were reflections of pain passed down through generations of women, pain that taught us to compete instead of trust.

The real work begins when we name it. When we remember that we are not each other’s enemies. When we choose to rise above old scripts and instead build spaces rooted in trust, encouragement, and sovereignty.

If you’ve carried this wound also, I invite you to pause and reflect: Where have I silenced myself in order to belong? And what would it feel like to stand in my own truth anyway?

Because this is how the Sisterhood Wound begins to heal - one voice, one truth, one act of courage at a time.

The Sovereign Path Epilogue III: False Loyalty & The Breaking of Psychic & Psychosexual Tethers

Some bonds are not love at all, but entrapment disguised as loyalty. Naming the tether is the first act of freedom. This post explores how tethers trap us in waking life and in the dreamscape.

Some bonds nourish. Others drain. Not all chains are visible. And some are not bonds at all, but energetic traps crafted to disguise as intimacy, loyalty, and even “love”. These traps are tethers - psychic cords designed to bind your will. Some are woven in silence, through attention, secrecy, or desire. These cords, once hooked, can leave us bound in ways we don’t understand. We may even wake up wondering why we feel pulled towards someone we don’t consciously choose, or why our own clarity keeps collapsing into confusion.

But, once they are seen for what they truly are, they can be broken.

Once broken, your sovereignty returns.

And if this has been you, hear this: It does not mean you are weak. It means your soul is learning to reclaim its freedom. Once these patterns are seen for what they are, and named, their hidden power over you dissolves.

What They Are, In Plain Terms:

A psychosexual tether is an energetic + psychological binding created through intimacy, attention, and manipulation.

It hijacks the body’s bonding chemistry (dopamine/oxytocin), overlays it with glamour (image, mystique, spiritual authority), and locks it in with control patterns (guilt, secrecy, intermittent reward, etc.).

The result: you feel compelled to stay connected even when your soul knows you should walk away.

How They Begin:

Psychosexual tethers rarely start with something obvious. They are seeded in small moments - an unspoken agreement, an unresolved attraction, a dynamic where secret itself fuels the charge. Over time, this exchange of energy becomes a loop: longing, guilt, release, repeat.

The tether works because it bypasses conscious choice. Your energy is engaged whether you want it to be or not. And the stronger it stays hidden, fed, and unacknowledged, the stronger it grows.

The Astral Realm: Where Hidden Tethers Are Often Forged

But what happens when the cords aren’t formed in daylight? What if the entanglement begins in places we barely remember - the dreamscape?

The astral and dream realms are fertile ground for manipulation. Here, our guard is lowered, our subconscious is wide open, and our most primal energies - desire, fear, longing - rise to the surface. For those who seek control, this becomes the perfect entry point.

Why? Because the dream body doesn’t distinguish between “just a dream” and a lived experience. When someone plants a sexual or emotional tether in the astral plane, the body and psyche register it as real. Over time, the victim may awake with cravings, confusion, or an unexplainable sense of attachment that feels “fated” - but is in truth manufactured.

These tethers are especially potent in relationships that are not overtly romantic. When overt intimacy is absent, the manipulator uses astral encounters to “fill in the gap”, weaving cords of sexual charge and psychic energy that create an addictive pull. What should have remained platonic or sacred is quietly rewired into obsession, dependence, a false sense of loyalty, or longing.

Step by Step for How These Tethers Form:

    1.    Hook: Love-bombing, sexual charge, soulmate mirroring - sometimes energetically mimicking a real connection, other times fabricating a false karmic or soul bond.

*This was perhaps one of the most disturbing things I saw in my experience, as it is highly convincing and truly cruel to do to someone. See previous posts for in-depth discussion regarding how this works.

    2.    Glamour: A crafted mystique - spiritual leader, chosen partner, or some sort of “special role” is crafted around them.

    3.    Bonding event: Intense intimacy or some sort of “secret sharing” that seals the tie. This can feel very real, even if there is no romance involved.

    4.    Intermittent reinforcement: Unpredictable warmth/cold patterns keep you addicted.

*See previous posts for in-depth discussion on how this works energetically and on your Nervous System.

    5.    Debt + Obligation: They make you feel like subconsciously you “owe” them — your silence, your loyalty, your energy, etc. Loyalty born from debt is not devotion - it is a tether that drains the very strength it pretends to honor.

    6.    Isolation: They pit people against each other (aka use triangulation techniques); you become elevated as the “chosen one” until you’re discarded and replaced.

    7.    Fear: Some sort of true fear pattern is created and reinforced typically involving the group, your identity, or destiny to keep you trapped, such as “If you leave, you lose everything — me, the group, your path.” Depending on how long you have been under this influence, how strong the tether is, and how long this loop has been reinforced and embedded, this can seem very real and threatening.

How It Works:

    •    Chemical Loop: Dopamine anticipation + oxytocin bonding + cortisol stress = an addictive push-pull dynamic is intentionally created.

    •    Meaning Loop: Ordinary control dressed up as “destiny, karma, or a shared mission.” With a truly gifted energetic practitioner these loops are individually crafted and created for the unique wounds and desires of the person, their energetic make-up, and the intentional purpose the creator wishes for them to serve.

    •    Energetic Loop: Your focus, fear, and even sexual energy feed the cord.

    •    Context Loop: Group dynamics normalize it so you doubt your instincts. And remember, glamour works by dulling your instincts, your agency, and your gifts. You are seeing all of this through a fogged lens and not true clarity.

How to Know If You’ve Been Bound Through Astral or Dreamscape:

• You’ve had recurring dreams of intimacy with someone you would never consciously choose in waking life. The dream feels strangely real and leaves a residue.

• You wake up with unexplained arousal, longing or guilt, as if something happened that you can’t fully place.

• You often feel drained, foggy, or heavy after sleep, as though your energy has been siphoned overnight.

• There’s a nagging pull toward a person that doesn’t match your real-life discernment. You know in your bones it’s not right, but something unseen keeps tugging you back.

• You may notice loops and cycles - moments of clarity where you want freedom, followed by sudden confusion, longing, or return.

Other Ways These Tethers May Feel:

    •    Compulsion stronger than free choice: you “decide” but feel dragged. You are being energetically coerced as the tether and loops in place keep you under their control.

    •    Brief highs, long lows.

    •    Guilt or debt replaces your joy.

    •    Shrinking life: fewer friends, family connection, hobbies - ultimately, less freedom, vitality, and less self.

    •    Constant tension: keeping them happy means betraying your own peace. As you awaken to this you will start to notice this dissonance more clearly but may still feel “bound’ in a sense. For example, even if you decide to walk away, you may feel like you can’t yet - you will not find clarity and decisive energy until you break the tethers.

Seeing is Believing (Self-Test):

Ask yourself:

    1.    Freedom Test: Could I walk away tomorrow without fear of collapse?

    2.    Debt Test: Am I staying because I want to, out of true love or community, or because I feel a sense of obligation, as if I somehow “owe” them?

    3.    Expansion Test: Do I feel larger, freer, more myself in this bond — or smaller and trapped? Is this bringing out the best in me?

    4.    Sunlight Test: If someone I trusted read our last 10 messages, would they call it love or control? Have any of the above shared feelings or experiences landed as true?

    5.    Future Test: If they vanished for 30 days, would my life expand or collapse?

If your answers lean toward fear, debt, collapse, or shame → it’s not love, it’s a tether.

The Wider Web: Other Tethers That Bind:

Psychosexual tethers are only one thread in the web.

Here are the others:

• Psychic Tether: Obsessive thought and focus, constant pull

• Emotional Debt Cord: Guilt and obligation used as currency.

• Trauma-Bond Cord: Abuse—>reward—>abuse, cycling until you can’t leave

• Group/Collective Cord: Belonging tied to hierarchy, exile used as threat.

• Magickal/Ritual Cord: Intentional energetic bindings, often with objects. Can often times be used to ensure you don’t physically leave a group.

• Ancestral/Karmic Cord: Past-life or family entanglements exploited by manipulators.

A skilled black magick practitioner rarely uses just one. They weave layers - a net that feels impossible to escape until you see each thread and break them.

Breaking the Tether:

Here is the uncomfortable truth - you are never powerless against these tactics. The cords may feel real to you and binding - but they are truly smoke and mirrors once you see them for what they really are.

To break them:

    •    Name it aloud: Truth itself is a sword. What was hidden cannot stay hooked once spoken. Speaking the truth weakens and dissolves the glamour.

    •    Reclaim your dreamscape & Revoke Any Debt: Before sleep affirm: Only what is of Spirit may enter here. My soul belongs to no one but the Divine.

• Practice Daily Sovereignty: Breathwork, prayer, or shielding rituals remind your system where your authority lies.

    •    Walk away: Even small steps reclaim freedom; one step alone helps to weaken the net.

    •   Call back your fragments: Imagine drawing your energy out of every dream, fantasy, memory, or feeling where it does not belong or where you do not consent for it to be. See it return to your body, your heart, your Spirit.

•  Reset the body: Movement, breath, rest, salt, grounding — heal your nervous system.

    •    Repattern bonds: Surround yourself with people who make you feel bigger, freer, clearer. Reconnect with friends, family, and hobbies - anything that allows you to start seeing the contrast, feel again, and reconnect consciously to your body, your innate desires and will, and true, healthy connection and relationship.

    •    Shield: Protect your field with intention (Prayer, Mediation & Visualization, Ritual, Salt Baths, LBRP/Middle Pillar/Rite of the Headless One; whatever aligns with your spiritual path - but do energetic protections and field maintenance regularly - especially before sleep, group activity, or any astral travel). Set the daily intention for your field: Only love and truth may enter. All else returns to Source.

Here’s the truth: even in dreams your soul is sovereign. No glamour, no hidden contract, no erotic entanglement has the right to bind you without your consent. Naming these tactics with clarity is the first cut of the sword. Recognizing them dissolves their hidden power. And, once seen, they can no longer weave themselves silently around your spirit. Each act of reclamation loosens the cords until they dissolve entirely.

When you begin to see even your dreamscape and astral plane as holy ground - sacred, sovereign, untouchable - you reclaim the parts of yourself that were once hijacked in the shadows. This is where true freedom begins.

Why This Is Done:

At its root, tethering (and really any form of black magick) is about power, control, and self benefit. The manipulator feeds off sexual and psychic energy like a battery, especially when they can attach it to secrecy or shame. It makes them more powerful, youthful, magnetic. It feeds their ego and allows them greater power to achieve their goals.

Non-romantic dynamics are often targeted precisely because they bypass defenses. If the waking relationship doesn’t “make sense” as intimate, the dreamscape tethering fills the gap, making the pull feel destined. And rarely does the trusting or non-suspecting person confront a teacher, mentor, or otherwise platonic figure in their life about crossing sexual lines in a way they’ve never seen in the physical plane or have any “proof” they can use to justify such an accusation. So, its usually dismissed as “in their head” or unrelated - especially if they are already under glamours (which nearly always goes hand in hand) and is already dulling their intuition, and fogging their sense of clarity and discernment.

The Truth About Love & Loyalty

Real loyalty is chosen freely.

Real love never imprisons, it frees.

Real bonds expand your soul.

Anything else is glamour, imbalance, and energetic theft and coercion. And when you name it — it begins to die.

Entrapment and false loyalty are not love - they are illusions that borrow your strength until you name them.

If you find yourself bound, it does not mean you are weak - it means your soul is being trained in the art of reclaiming its freedom.

Tethers only hold as long as you call them love or loyalty. The moment you name them for what they truly are, their hold over you begins to break. Real love expands your world - false loyalty shrinks it. The Sovereign Path is simple: consciously choose expansion, every time.

Freedom Is Your Birthright

Psychosexual cords, whether formed in waking life or woven in dreamscape, are never stronger than your Sovereign will aligned with Spirit. Once named, they dissolve. Once claimed, your freedom can no longer be taken.

You are not bound. You are sovereign. And in remembering that truth, you are already free.

Anchoring in the Body: Making Abundance Real

You can visualize the perfect home, recite affirmations, and write down your million-dollar goals —but if your body doesn’t feel safe to have and keep wealth, it will subtly push it away. Usually without you even realizing.

Abundance isn’t just a mindset. It’s not something you “call in” - it’s something you inhabit. It’s a full-body signal — the way your breath settles, the way your feet meet the ground, the way your nervous system decides, “Yes, this is safe for me.”

Embodiment is the bridge between wanting more and actually living it. You don’t become wealthy by thinking richer thoughts. You become wealthy by teaching your body what it feels like to already have what you desire.

And at the center of embodiment is presence — being so anchored in your senses that abundance stops being a future fantasy and becomes something you hold in your cells right now. When you’re fully present in your body, abundance stops being a mental wish and becomes a lived, sensory truth. The way you stand, breathe, and move tells your nervous system:

I am safe to have more. I am ready to keep more. I am worthy of all of it.

This is where the inner work stops being theoretical - and starts truly changing your reality.

Why the Body Decides If You’re Abundant

Your nervous system is your wealth thermostat.

It constantly asks, often below your awareness:

    •    “Am I safe to receive more?”

    •    “Can I trust this will last?”

    •    “Do I know what to do with it once I have it?”

When the answer is “no” — even subtly — your body will self-sabotage to bring you back to its “safe” baseline, even if that baseline is scarcity.

Examples:

    •    You get an unexpected check… and immediately feel the urge to spend it down. (Your body is more comfortable with emptiness than overflow.)

    •    You land a big client… and then “forget” to send the invoice. (Your nervous system is allergic to claiming your value.)

    •    You receive praise… and deflect it or change the subject. (You’ve learned visibility isn’t safe.)

    •    You finally have savings… and still feel tense, scanning for the next emergency. (Safety hasn’t been anchored into your physiology yet.)

Rewriting these patterns isn’t about more willpower, discipline, or enlightenment — it’s about teaching your body that abundance is safe, normal, and repeatable.

Your Elemental Wealth Code

Your chart’s elemental balance tells you how to embody abundance — and where your body may need extra support to feel safe keeping it.

How to Use This Chart:

    1.    Check Your Element Balance – Look at Sun, Moon, Ascendant, and personal planets (Mercury, Venus, Mars). Are most in one element? Missing one entirely? This shows where you thrive — and where you can consciously build strength to maximize your potential.

    2.    Look at Jupiter – Its sign/element shows your wealth growth style. Match your practices to this element to amplify results.

    3.    Check Your 2nd & 8th House Signs – These reveal the core energy you must embody to fully anchor abundance (self-worth & resources vs. shared wealth & transformation).

    4.    Part of Fortune – Its sign/element is your “natural wealth frequency.” Practices in this element feel the most effortless and joyful.

Pro tip: If your Jupiter, 2nd/8th house signs, or Part of Fortune fall in an element you’re missing — make that your daily focus. You’ll rebalance faster and notice results in both how you feel and what you attract.

Element	If Weak of Missing	If Abundant	Examples of Best Anchoring Practices	Bigger Life Gift
Earth (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn)	May struggle to feel rooted or trust the long game; abundance feels abstract	Can build & keep, but may resist change or have risk aversion	Weighted grounding (weighted blanket or sandbags on hips) Gardening or planting something to watch grow, Cooking a full meal from scratch with mindful steps	Earth’s gift is the power to make the invisible visible – to give spirit and dreams a home in the physical world.
Water (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces)	May struggle to receive or feel emotionally safe with wealth.	Deep feeler; but may get overwhelmed or overgive.	Floating in water, ritual or salt bath, Listening to emotion-evoking music with hand over heart, Receiving stillness – letting yourself be fully supported for 5 minutes in meditation	Water’s gift is the ability to merge with life so fully that abundance becomes an unbroken current.
Fire (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius)	Hesitant to act or embody confidence.	High drive but may burn out or skip savoring life.	Running or hot yoga to ignite vitality, Standing in sunlight while speaking affirmations aloud, Lighting a candle before work to signal “power hour”	Fire’s gift is the courage to initiate and the warmth that inspires others to rise with you.
Air (Gemini, Libra, Aquarius)	May overthink instead of acting.	Generates ideas easily but can detach from the body.	Deeply belly breathing while holding a grounding stone, Aromatherapy journaling – inhale then free-write visions “Sky gaze” for 60 seconds to expand perspective	Air’s gift is the vision to connect ideas and people, carrying abundance on the winds of possibility.

6 Unique Ways to Anchor Abundance in the Body

1. Weighted Grounding

Lie on the floor with a weighted blanket or sandbag over your hips. This physical pressure cues your body: You are supported. You are held.

2. Prosperity Pulse Tapping

Hand over heart, tap gently with your heartbeat while repeating: “I keep what’s mine. I grow what I have.” Links abundance to your life force.

3. The “Harvest” Walk

Pick up one natural object for every abundant thought you have on a walk. Keep them in a jar as a physical record/visual reminder of wealth awareness.

4. Elemental Breath Reset

Breathe Earth, Water, Fire, or Air patterns to balance your abundance frequency (choose the element you need most each day). This will help rebalance your abundance frequency.

• Earth: Deep belly exhale/inhale for stability

• Water: Slow, wave-like inhale through the nose, exhale through the mouth for flow

• Fire: Quick energizing inhales/exhales for confidence

• Air: Long, expansive inhales and sighing exhales for clarity

5. Touch as Wealth Encoding

While moisturizing, imagine sealing abundance into your skin like a golden seal. This reframes basic care as energetic investment.

6. Luxury Temperature Training

Use warm towels, cool water on wrists, or sunlight on your face — pause, ground in presence, and fully receive the sensation to train your nervous system to savor comfort. This conditions your nervous system to register pleasure and comfort as safe, repeatable, and worth holding onto.

Where Inner Wealth Becomes Real

Abundance isn’t in the numbers — it’s in the nervous system.

When your body learns to feel safe, worthy, and at home with more, you stop chasing and start keeping. Opportunities stick. Wealth stays. Relationships deepen.

Anchor it in your body, and abundance stops being a goal — it becomes your baseline reality.

Not because you wished harder, but because you became the person who lives, and embodies, it without effort.

When the Skin Speaks: Eczema, Mars in Leo, Saturn in Aries, & The Body’s Call To Move

Note: This post is a little more personal than usual, but I feel like this is an important part of my Chiron Return journey and I promised to share as I grow this year. If you are navigating skin or body issues, shame or frustration with slow healing, I hope this post brings you encouragement and grounding.

I find the whispers of our body to be an uncannily insightful gift in so many different ways.

But, I will be honest, I didn’t expect a small patch of eczema to become the random mouthpiece for my soul.

It showed up one morning out of the blue on my right calf - red, inflamed, and oddly fierce. Intense itching. At first, I treated it like a minor inconvenience. Baffled by what may have caused it but thought perhaps I had somehow brushed against poison oak and hadn’t realized it - and mentally brushed it off. A pattern I often do….subtly dismissing my body’s whispers. But, as the days passed and nothing seemed to calm it down, I began to soften, quiet my mind - and listen.

And what I finally heard changed everything.

The Body Always Speaks First

I’ve spent years unearthing my wounds. I know how to track trauma, decode patterns, map astrology, and follow the breadcrumbs of ancestral pain and wounding.

But this was different.

This time, my body was telling me the truth faster than I could process it.

Not gently. Not quietly.

It was itchy. Inflamed. Angry. Raw.

Like some part of me had finally had enough of being held back, silenced, polished, and composed.

This wasn’t just a first breakout of eczema.

This was a flare-up of suppressed fire.

The Astrology Behind the Flare

When the eczema first appeared, Mars had just entered Leo - my 1st house of identity, body, and selfhood. The house of physicality and raw self-expression.

Mars is movement, will, rage, and desire.

Leo is visibility, radiance, deep self love, and self-expression.

It was activating my Leo Rising - also a leg of my natal yod pattern - and, energetically speaking, it was lighting a match.

At the same time, Saturn was transiting over my natal Sun in Aries - opposing my natal Pluto and activating a square to my natal Saturn and Mars in Cancer in the 12th house. And, simultaneously, my Chiron Return was also beginning - square to that same Saturn. And square to my natal Moon in Capricorn.

If that all sounds intense- it was.

A grand cross of pressure.

A karmic reckoning.

A soul initiation coded in inflammation.

Because here’s the truth:

You can’t keep moving forward in your purpose if your body is still wired to believe it’s not safe to be seen.

Saturn was saying: Refine your identity. Mature your truth.

Mars was saying: Move. Burn. Become. Shed the patterns you have outgrown and hold you back.

And my nervous system? It was still holding onto decades of frozen, deeply embedded survival strategies.

That eczema patch was a flare-up of trapped fire, trying to escape.

Why My Body Reacted: The Ancestral Freeze Pattern

Eczema isn’t random. It’s heat without a home.

And it often appears where the soul is trying to evolve, but the body hasn’t caught up yet.

I carry a legacy of silence.

Of women who smiled instead of screamed.

Who braced instead of ran.

Who mothered, mended, and made do - while their own bodies slowly stiffened with unspoken pain. Lost dreams. Emotional suppression. Forgotten worth.

Mars and Saturn in Cancer in my 12th House = inherited emotional armor.

It taught me at a very young age to read a room - to hold it all together, protect everyone else, and to never make a scene.

But now? With Mars roaring through Leo and Chiron flaring in Aries?

My body broke rank.

It finally broke through and said: No more false safety. No survival-first any longer. No more silence or self-subjugation.

The skin opened. The truth escaped.

It forced me to stop and see the deeper message…and, the pattern.

The Calf & The Right Side: The Sacred Symbolism

Eczema on my right calf wasn’t random.

The right side of the body holds masculine energy: action, visibility, forward motion.

The calf is about momentum - it is one of the muscles that helps us to walk, run, move.

And the skin? It is our boundary - the line between inside and out, between self and the world. Not surprising, it is ruled by Saturn.

So when my soul said: Go.

My nervous system still sat in its protective armor and said: Wait. It’s not safe yet. I’m not ready to be seen; it still doesn’t feel safe.

My body said: This won’t work. There’s an energetic mismatch and you aren’t living in your full truth and purpose.

And, ultimately, it expressed the fire that desired to help push me forward on my path, somatically….and I developed eczema.

Not because my body is failing.

But because my body was the only one in the room telling the truth.

Putting it all together?

My body was saying: You want to move forward, but something inside you still feels unsafe to be seen.

You’re trying to shed your old identity, but you’re still wrapped in ancestral armor. It’s time to trust and surrender - heal and grow.

You would have to see my whole chart to see how very deeply this resonated with me at my core.

The Fire That Has No Place To Go

This was rage I hadn’t named.

Desire I hadn’t owned.

Visibility I hadn’t allowed.

It wasn’t mental. It was cellular.

My body had become a containment field for every time I had wanted to say:

• I’m not ok.

• This isn’t working.

• I want more.

• What legacy am I building towards?

Instead of screaming, I smiled. Instead of changing deep course, I simply worked harder.

Instead of moving, I continued to give to others. I managed. I accepted. I dissociated.

Ultimately, I did what I often do best - I ignored. I dismissed the many whispers that had come before this.

Until my skin couldn’t hold the contradiction anymore.

The Ritual That Changed Everything

I stopped running a few months ago - because of time, weather, and truthfully, a lack of prioritizing myself.

But when I pieced this all together, I heard the message very clearly:

You need to move. You need to burn clean. You need to reclaim motion as medicine.

So, I started running again - not as punishment, but as ritual.

Because the only way to clear - to truly move the element of fire - is to physically move the energy.

Each morning, I now:

• Touch my right calf and say: I hear you. I’m listening and I am ready.

• Run to mantras like “I am fire”, “I am free”, “I am safe to be fully me”

Each day I chose to run was a reclamation.

Not just of my health - but of my voice, my will, my radiance, and my right to be here in full, unapologetic flame.

A New Kind of Healing

After each run, I’d anoint my leg with a sacred oil blend that I made - blue tansy for soothing fire, rose for softness, frankincense for identity reclamation.

I’d breathe. I’d listen. I’d stop forcing.

And slowly…my body stopped bracing.

My skin began to soften.

The fire became less itchy. Less inflamed. More integrated. Until finally, it healed in full.

And the changes that stirred? Not only did the eczema soften, but so did my inner landscape.

I began to embody what my soul had been calling me towards.

Reflections: What I’ve Learned

• That my quick mental processing while a gift, also creates a subconscious disconnect allowing me to intellectually grasp things quickly while also bypassing the emotional embodiment of my experiences - subconsciously feeding into a deeply embedded and ancestral pattern of emotional suppression. Reminding me that quick understanding is not the same as deep embodiment.

• That my skin is not betraying me - it’s translating my truth; that my body is speaking to me. I simply have to be present and take intentional time each day, to listen to it.

• That movement, when rooted in presence, is sacred.

This healing journey isn’t about fixing a skin condition.

Or, about being concerned with another autoimmune disease.

This isn’t just about eczema.

This is about what happens when your body is finally safe enough to speak and be witnessed.

And it has tested me, subtly, to see if I am truly listening.

It’s ultimately a reminder about the importance of presence, embodiment, and listening to my body.

It’s about learning to trust the fire in my body again. To trust and honor my feelings -and my soul.

To learn to let Mars move through me - not burn beneath me.

Sometimes the healing begins not when you apply the cream, but when you stop apologizing for your fire.

Your Invitation

If you’ve been dealing with strange symptoms - skin flares, fatigue, emotional spikes, or other body blockages - ask yourself:

• Where am I holding back my truth?

• What truth is trying to surface?

• What motion have I stopped out of fear?

• What fire have I silenced?

Your body isn’t resisting you.

It’s speaking to you.

You are not broken.

You are just becoming too real to stay inside of the old armor.

You are being called to release and outgrow old patterns.

You are being asked to surrender, trust, and step into new growth.

And when you start moving from soul, and shifting out of survival -

You don’t just heal your skin.

You reclaim your radiance.