The Sovereign Path - Part 4. Beneath the Glamour: Black Magick - The Invisible Hand That Binds
You don’t realize you’re in a cage until the spell breaks.
This post is the key.
Black magick doesn’t set you free. It just makes the cage feel divine.
In full disclaimer, I do not practice black magick. Until a few weeks ago, I couldn’t tell you the first thing about it. But, what has unfolded in the past few weeks has forced me into a very steep education and I’ve been shown about various elements at play. This post is written to cast a light on what was hidden - and through truth and awareness, offer a path back to your power and purpose.
Black magick doesn’t always wear a hooded cloak or cackle in the dark. Sometimes it smiles sweetly and tells you it’s here to help. Sometimes it builds community. Sometimes it hands you a mirror, only to hijack what you see in it.
This post is for anyone who has ever felt “off”, foggy, disoriented, or disempowered in a spiritual space that they once trusted. If you’ve ever questioned your instincts, ignored red flags, or felt bound to a person or teacher beyond reason - you’re not crazy. You may have been caught in an energetic web of manipulation.
If that’s you - this post is your lifeline.
Because I see you.
I’ve been you.
And its time to break the spell.
Why This Matters
The spiritual world is full of beauty and healing - but as with anything, duality is also at play, and it is also full of shadow.
Not because spirituality in itself is dangerous, but because anything powerful can be inverted.
Light attracts moths and predators.
And, if you’ve ever felt spiritually hijacked - bound to someone or something in the distorted name of “love” or “truth” - you know exactly what I’m taking about.
This post is not intended to scare you.
It’s to educate you, protect you, and ultimately help you reclaim your soul authority.
This is the post you didn’t know you needed - the one that makes you whisper “OMG, this is what happened to me”, and then helps you rise out of it, sovereign and whole.
What is Black Magick- Really?
At its core, black magick is the willful manipulation of energy, perception, or spiritual laws in order to bypass free will, control another’s path, or extract power for personal gain. It operates through distortion. Through coercion. Through theft of sovereignty.
It thrives in ambiguity, false compassion, and spiritual bypassing.
It may masquerade as guidance or healing. It may wear the mask of a teacher, It may speak the language of love, awakening, or truth.
But, at its root, black magick is inversion. Inversion is the act of turning something sacred inside out and using it as a tool of control:
Truth becomes gaslighting
Love becomes control
Devotion becomes enslavement
Initiation becomes trauma bonding
Reflection becomes projection
Service becomes sacrifice
It ultimately uses your goodness against you. Your empathy becomes a leash. Your desire to grow becomes entrapment. Your silence becomes consent.
It is not karmic. It is not shadow work. It is domination, carefully crafted manipulation, and it is a dangerous, parasitic theft.
And in my opinion, it’s critical to name it for what it is. Because trying to rationalize everything as “neutral” or part of the lesson” helps no one.
Black magick will never be neutralized with neutrality. Its goal is not healing. Its goal is dominion.
This is not the path of healing or shadow integration - it is the unhealed shadow acting through you, driven by the desire to possess and control.
Qlipothic Distortion & Misuse of Shadow
Let me be clear:
The Qlipoth itself is not evil.
The Qlipoth - also called the Tree of Death or the Shadow Tree - is a real, profound mystical system.
It’s a symbolic map of the psyche’s descent - into shadow, fragmentation, and the exiled parts the self.
When approached with reverence and integrity, it can lead to profound healing, transformation, and power reclamation.
A way to integrate what was once denied.
To reclaim personal sovereignty - not to steal anyone else’s.
But like any potent system, it can be distorted.
And when it is no longer used for self-integration- but instead for manipulation - that is how it gets twisted into a tool of control. And why it is so often found woven throughout black magick.
Examples - How This Plays Out In Practice
Qlipothic Chains - a tethering system of invisible energetic links designed to bind people into energetic submission; creating subtle but powerful compliance loops
Mantras -repeated phrases that layer intention into the field, bypassing logic and embedding control; not used for empowerment, but to override will and implant spiritual agreements.
Astral whispers in dream space or meditation - subtle energetic suggestions that sounded like intuition but instead create longing, craving, or guilt
Energetic architecture that mirrored Qlipothic descent - not as a personal rite but as a group mechanism to extract devotion, compliance, and psychic access.
I was shown these through visceral, embodied experiences. I could feel the energetic “chains” tightening in the field after being shown a ritual. I watched others become disoriented, hyper-attached, or psychically fogged, convinced it was their shadow coming up - when in truth, it was spell architecture being reinforced.
How Black Magick Distorts Spiritual Law
Black magick doesn’t operate in chaos - it thrives on inverting spiritual law - by subtly warping what is sacred.
Examples:
Sacred law of consent is replaced with illusion - You’re led to believe you’ve agreed - through mantras, soul contract language, or “remembering” - but there was no real choice. Only energetic coercion masked as destiny.
Sacred timing is replaced with entrapment cycles - Instead of trusting organic evolution, you’re looped into rituals or energetic bindings that keep you “working the process” indefinitely - never quite free, never quite whole, but always promised you’re almost there.
Law of Reflection is replaced with gaslighting - Your intuition is reframed as “ego”, your boundaries as resistance or “wounding”, and your clarity as “projection” - so that you doubt yourself and default to their version of truth.
Divine Will is replaced with manufactured fate - Instead of surrendering to Source, you’re funneled into a scripted path - crafted by someone else’s agenda but masked as your soul’s mission. Free will is bypassed under the illusion of sacred inevitability.
Initiation is replaced with control - what is presented as a rite of transformation is actually a rite of binding - designed to siphon your energy or block you, not awaken your power.
Why It Hooks So Deeply
Because it mirrors real shadow work just enough to confuse you.
You think you’re facing your shadow.
You think you’re healing.
You think this discomfort means you’re being initiated.
But in reality?
You’re being energetically manipulated.
You’re being spiritually tethered under the guise of transformation.
You’re giving consent without knowing it - because the architecture is designed that way.
And once you’re inside it, you begin to override your instincts.
You start to doubt yourself in the name of growth.
That’s not healing.
That’s spellwork that feeds on confusion, craving, and shame.
Let’s Name It Clearly
This isn’t the sacred descent into shadow or Qlipoth.
This is the strategic use of spiritual mechanics to entrap.
It’s not about owning your darkness.
It’s about someone else controlling the terrain of your soul - while convincing you it’s your own path.
The Qlipoth, like any archetypal map, can be approached with clarity, devotion, and consent.
But when its weaponized?
It becomes a psychic prison disguised as a temple.
The Core Distinction: Consent & Sovereignty
The true line between light and dark magick is consent. Light magick honors your will. It may challenge you. It may bring you to your knees with growth - but it never overrides your sovereignty. It moves with divine timing - not force.
Black magick however, overrides your will. It operates off of fear, seduction, confusion, glamour, or authority to coerce alignment. It bends reality to the will of the practitioner, regardless of the soul contract or true consent of the other.
In other words light magick liberates. Dark magick entraps.
Black magick is willful violation of spiritual law - especially the law of consent. And no matter how beautiful, enticing, or promising it may seem, if it binds you instead of freeing you, it is never light.
It often works much more subtly than you might expect through tactics such as:
Energetic tethering (cords, bindings, glamour)
Astral manipulation (dream invasion, watchers, etheric interference)
Sexual energy siphoning (often masked as intimacy or healing)
False soul contracts (initiations, vows, pacts made under duress or illusion, often without full conscious awareness)
Trauma bonding (bonding through shared wound or crisis, then controlling access to safety or love)
Mirror mimicry (reflecting your gifts or wounds back to you, then weaponizing them)
Power inversion (you’re told your instincts are ego; your clarity is projection)
It Works Because It Hooks The Wound
Black magick feeds on unhealed pain:
Your longing to belong
Your hunger to be chosen
Your desire to serve
Your fear of abandonment
Your rejection trauma
Your self-doubt
Your dreams of success
A skilled manipulator doesn’t create the wound - they simply exploit it. Light magick heals the inner child. Dark magick hooks it.
How to Know You’ve Been Touched By It
You might feel:
Emotionally fused to someone, even if you consciously know they are harming you
Fearful of “leaving” a group or teacher, as if you’ll spiritually regress or be cursed
Psychically fogged, disconnected from your own inner knowing
Drained or confused after interactions
Addicted to approval or “love” that comes with strings
Spiritually unsafe in your own space, dreams, or altar
If you in any way feel split from your own truth, or not in touch with your normally astute intuition, this may be why.
Tools of the Trade - How It All Works
Astral Work, Astral Tagging, Energetic Tethering, & Watchers: The Unseen Surveillance State
This layer rarely gets named but is critical:
Shadow magick workers often access your field during sleep or meditation, watching, planting, siphoning energy, and influencing your dreams.
Watchers are astral entities sent to observe or influence - not protect. This isn’t simply “checking in” and monitoring you - it is energetic trespassing, often disguised as connection, protection, or spiritual authority. These are cords that you never consented to - often created through group work, shared “healing” rituals, sex magick, trauma bonding, soul contract invocations, or emotional fusion. They create a feedback loop where your energy can be accessed, especially when you’re vulnerable.
Examples of How This May Be Used:
Ideas, images, or feelings may be implanted in your dreams to create doubt or longing; whatever suits the narrative they want to see in the physical
Your energy may be monitored for ‘weak spots’ - especially after trauma, expansion, or vulnerable sharing sessions
They may insert themselves during ritual you perform for yourself, feeding off your focus and spiritual openness
Spirits, familiars, or servitors may be assigned to “watch over” or even “police” your energy. You may notice:
Feeling “watched” during sacred work
Candles flickering with no draft
Sudden emotional shifts that are not your own
Erotic dreams with the wrong energetic feel
Feeling “tugged” back into connection after cutting cords
Disorientation
Flickering lights or a cold breeze when meditating, doing any ritual or divination work, etc.
Physical discomfort - energetically drained, sexually confused, brain fog, agitation or anxiety, upset stomach or other obscure somatic changes
You may feel like you “see” things - energetic eyes watching you, an observer in your dream space, forms or shadows peripherally, etc.
Interference with your intuitive clarity or sudden dread before speaking truth
These watchers aren’t protective of you - they are enforcers of an invisible energetic contract created to control you.
They keep you on the hook - through guilt, confusion, craving, or psychic interference. It is also a way to monitor your energy for shifts or keep tabs on you - always attempting to be one step ahead and strengthening spellwork if their grasp is slipping, etc. At the end of the day, this is a form of astral vampirism- feasting on your energy while whispering that they are helping you grow.
2. Glamour Magick & False Persona - The Illusion You Didn’t Consent To
Glamour magick is not about beauty - its about projection.
It doesn’t actually make someone more divine it simply makes you see them as such through a filter of intentionally crafted illusion. It makes you look like what someone else is desperate to see - a healer, a lover, a savior, a god.
Here’s how it works:
It reflects your deepest desires - what you truly want most (safety, love, purpose) - back to you like a mirror….creating spiritual seduction.
It energetically creates a sense of divine familiarity: “We’ve known each other for lifetimes….” “This is your soulmate, your guru, your destiny”
It loops your nervous system into dependency (fawn/freeze cycles) by giving you a hit of belonging and then threatening withdrawal if you pull away. “I can’t leave them - I owe them everything.”
You feel chosen. Safe. Seen.
“They see me. They know me. This connected must be fated.”
But in truth?
You’re falling in love with your own essence - just mirrored back to you through their mask.
3. Pacts & Ritual Coercion - The Silent Agreements That Bind
You don’t need to sign a document to be under a pact.
Pacts are formed when you unconsciously agree to believe, obey, or belong.
Even silently thinking:
“She knows more than me.”
“I’ll lose everything if I leave.”
“This is my soul contract.”
These thoughts, combined with energetic reinforcement (often ritual or astral work), bind you.
Even well-meaning group meditations, healing circles, and rituals can be manipulated to embed cords and control.
And, once you’re in…you own subconscious will keep you bound, even as your soul screams to get out.
You may not even realize what you agreed to until your life starts unraveling - or you try to walk away and feel psychically pulled back.
How You Might See This Play Out:
Creating a “shared mission” that becomes an unspoken soul pact
Channeling message that position them as your spiritual gatekeeper or interpreter
Using group rituals to anchor cords - without participants fully knowing what they are agreeing to.
You likely didn’t sign a physical contract - but your energetic consent was manipulated through language like:
“We’re soul family”
“This is part of your purpose”
“I’m helping you remember”
4. Sex Magick & Energetic Seduction- The Unexpected Energy Drain
Sexual energy is sacred. It is life force itself.
But in dark hands, it becomes a weapon.
In sacred tradition, it can heal, bond, awaken, and align,
In distorted form, it can bind, seduce, confuse, and control.
Because sexual energy bypasses logic and speaks directly to the subconscious, it becomes a gateway for manipulation.
During heightened arousal or emotional vulnerability, we become:
More open
More suggestible
More psychically porous
And that makes us prime for:
Cord creation
Energetic suggestion
False bonding
Soul mimicry
Here’s how it may be used in distorted form:
Used to tether you through sacral cords; or hook through shame, desire, or unhealed longing
Used to cast, amplify, and feed the practitioner’s glamour field so others fall under their spell and they appear more desirable, magnetic, and irresistable
Used to loop your heart and root so that your sense of safety, desire, and love become externally controlled
Creating psychic dependence - so your nervous system learns to seek approval from the creator
Bind someone to a group or teacher through nervous system oxytocin/dopamine loops
Implant beliefs or dependencies during vulnerable or altered states
Send sensual dream energy to fabricate a soul bond or mimic a connection; creating illusionary intimacy
Feed off arousal or confusion creating a feedback loop that tethers, disempowers, and weakens clarity
This is misuse of the sacred feminine in distorted form.
It is manipulated seduction.
It is spiritual abuse.
And no one is talking about it.
And here is the important part to understand if you are new to all of this - you do not need to have any physical contact or romantic intention for this to work.
It can all be done energetically, remotely, and very subtly - catching you off guard.
It happened to me.
I watched this play out energetically in myself and others within the group. The seduction was disguised as safety. The person leading it knew how to identify and prey upon trauma patterns - especially those involving abandonment, invisibility, and the desire for connection.
What they don’t tell you about distorted sexual energy:
It bypasses the logic. It lowers the guard of your conscious mind and directly transmits emotion and intention to the subconscious. You can feel connected to someone harming you and confuse it for love, karma, or fate.
It creates obsession chemistry - emotional highs followed by lows, guilt, confusion. Also mimicking trauma chemistry.
It rewires your nervous system to equate abuse with attachment.
It strengthens energetic bonds through dopamine, oxytocin, and psychic imprinting.
Because many people have wounding, longing, or repression tied to sex - it becomes a highly charged, easily exploitable force.
And, for a narcissist or manipulator, this cycle of intensity and depletion is exactly what they crave and thrive off of.
Red flags you may be bound through seduction:
You feel drained, confused, or even ashamed after interactions - even though they seem nurturing or “loving”
You second guess yourself constantly around them
You feel a sexual or romantic pull towards someone you don’t actually want - but you can’t stop thinking about them.
You’ve been told they are your “twin flame” or soul teacher, but it feels twisted or one sided.
They may use spiritual language like “divine feminine”, “tantric embodiment”, “kundalini activation” - but the energy feels off, heavy, overly intimate, or invasive.
In women this energy can actually show up as disempowerment in your own sacral or womb space - you may question your desirability, intuition, or magick.
5. Mirror Hijacking, Energetic Mimicry - Identity Theft
This tactic creates false resonance. They don’t actually embody your energy- they mimic it just enough to appear familiar.
It’s both glamour and theft.
Here’s how it works:
You begin to notice your words or tone “echoed” publicly by them - your insights, style, even your cadence reflected back at you.
If you’re empathic or psychically sensitive, you may feel them trying to access your field.
They may energetically mimic someone you trust - a person you’re bonded to, a soul connection - so they can trick your intuition into letting them in.
This is particularly dangerous because:
It can cause confusion in your intuitive signals
It can create emotional or psychic misfires, making you question your true connections
It may be used to replace or discredit your spiritual allies by impersonating them in dream space, energetic work, or spiritual downloads.
In short?
It’s not real connection.
It is a hijack of your energetic signature - twisted to suit their agenda.
6. False Oracle/Divination Manipulation
This form of manipulation builds trust while undermining you.
It looks like accurate messages, spiritual guidance, or psychic insight - but its all laced with control.
They may:
Deliver messages that feel true, but subtly push fear, guilt, or dependency
Use their spiritual authority to implant limiting beliefs and control narratives (ie. “This pain is karmic”, “You’re not ready to leave yet” etc)
Tap into your field without consent during readings - then reflect it back as if its divine guidance, when in fact it’s your own energy being distorted
This erodes trust in your own channel.
It trains you to look to them instead of your own inner knowing.
If your “spiritual guidance” ever becomes wrapped in fear, disempowerment, or the idea that you “can’t” do something without them - it’s not guidance. it’s manipulation.
If This Resonates
If reading any of this was disturbing to you, know you are not alone. These realizations not only shocked me, but they stirred deep grief, betrayal, rage, and brokenness.
But, once I began to understand the patterns, the spell broke.
That is exactly how black magick is dismantled:
Through clarity.
Through language.
Through seeing what was hidden.
Because unless you want to live at the mercy of someone else’s shadow, sick game, or soul agenda, you must reclaim your conscious will.
You are not here to be enslaved.
You are not here to be confused, coerced, or fed upon.
You are here to live autonomously, awake, and sovereign.
And let there be no doubt -
If you do not confront this,
you will become complicit in your own energetic imprisonment.
The longer you stay under this kind of magick:
The deeper the cords root
The more your own truth erodes
The duller your intuition becomes
The heavier your self-doubt grows
The more your identity is distorted - & reshaped by someone' else’s shadow
Eventually, your nervous system wires itself to believe:
Real love = danger
Safety = complacency
Belonging = surrendering your power
That is not safety.
It is theft, betrayal, and lies.
And it will lead to a silent death of your soul.
The Antidote Is Not More Protection Spells - It’s Embodied Sovereignty
Protection rituals have their place - but they cannot save you from what you continue to energetically permit.
You break black magick through:
Embodied clarity
Naming what’s happening
Exercising your will
Speaking the truth
Establishing energetic and relational boundaries
Reconnecting to your inner compass - your intuition
You don’t need to be perfect.
You need to be present and awake.
And you need to trust yourself again.
Because your clarity will dismantle the illusion.
My Story. My Turning Point.
Everything I’ve shared, I experienced or witnessed in the group I was once a part of. These are just a few of the black magick tactics I have identified. I am sure there are likely others beyond what I’ve described here, that were at play.
And to be clear - it was covert. Cloaked.
I didn’t know this person was practicing anything dark. Had I known, I would have never studied with her.
She is highly trained in astral and energetic work. Which made this much harder to spot - and even harder to untangle.
But now? I see clearly.
What she took from me can be reclaimed.
She holds no power over me.
Because now, my eyes are wide open. My field is sealed. My truth is alive.
Compassion With Boundaries
There is a very real part of me that holds deep compassion for this person. I see the wounded inner child behind her mask. I see the walls of protection she has built from these shadows. And I sense all of the false promises of greatness, healing, and fulfillment she has been sold to persuade her along this path.
And these are the parts I can hold with love. To genuinely wish her healing.
For the love she never received and so greatly deserves.
For the truth - the inner knowing that all the power and worth she seeks outside herself is already held within her.
For the reflection in recognizing she is wildly gifted and beautiful on her own, inherent merit.
I see the desire for love, safety, and validation that are twisted into manipulation and control.
She deserves wholeness, true love, and joy in her life -and, with every bone in my body, I truly do hope that she finds them.
But this is no longer mine to carry.
For too long this has been my pattern - to over-give, over-fix, and over-help. To carry responsibility that was never mine to shoulder.
Compassion does not require sacrifice.
Empathy does not mean enabling.
I can love from afar - within the container it belongs.
Not as something I carry.
As something I witness and release.
You Can Too
If you have ever been caught in something like this, I want you to know.
You can heal.
You can reclaim what was lost.
You can walk forward more sovereign than ever before.
But, you must choose.
Because if you don’t - if you let this fester - if you let the shame win, if you let the fear sit unchallenged, or give power to the tiny part of you still holding out for the hope this wasn’t illusion, you’re not just abandoning yourself.
You are empowering the very person who has already taken too much.
Reclaim your radiance.
Reclaim your voice.
Reclaim your soul.
A new chapter is waiting ahead for you.
And you are more ready than you think.
I can’t wait to watch this unfold for you,
Seraph
The Sovereign Path - Part 3: 11 Red Flags of a False Guide.
The moment you choose your truth over belonging - the quiet power of walking away from what once felt sacred but wasn’t.
How to Spot Spiritual Manipulation Before You Get Hooked - Discernment Is Your Protection
Once you’ve been glamoured - once you’ve had your energy siphoned, your intuition manipulated, or your sacred wounds played like strings - your body remembers. But your mind? It may still be catching up.
You may still second-guess what happened.
You might still spiritualize their behavior:
“Maybe it was a soul lesson.”
“Maybe I wasn’t ready for their wisdom.”
“Maybe I misunderstood things.”
No.
You didn’t misunderstand.
You were being manipulated under the guise of spiritual wisdom.
This post is your mirror.
Let’s break down the signs - not to breed fear, but to build discernment so you never hand your power over to someone again.
Because real teachers sharpen your clarity.
False ones feed on your confusion. They steal your time, your peace, and your sovereignty.
11 Red Flags of A False Guide
…..and what they are really doing underneath the surface
1. They claim to be your only access point to truth, healing, or Source
They don’t always say it outright. But their energy implies:
“Without me, you wouldn’t be this far.”
“Your success is because of me - my methods or my frequency.”
“You can’t trust other teachers - they’re not aligned like I am.”
What’s actually happening:
They’re positioning themselves as a spiritual gatekeeper - which instantly sets up a hierarchy and keeps you tethered. This breeds dependency. If you feel disoriented, confused, or unsafe considering other options, you’re already entangled.
2. They reframe your instincts as ego or projection.
You bring up a concern. They respond with:
“That’s your shadow talking.”
“You’re in resistance.”
“You’re just not calibrated to this frequency yet.”
“You don’t understand this yet.”
What’s actually happening:
They’re gaslighting you using spiritual language. This is not real shadow work - it’s a tactic to keep power unchallenged. The moment they convince you your intuition is a problem, they become the authority on your truth.
3. They isolate you from other support systems.
They will use triangulation, embedded thoughtforms, or they might say things like:
“Your friends are in a lower vibration.”
“They don’t understand.”
“You should take space from anyone who questions this work.”
“No one understands you like I do” “Don’t you remember our bond?”
What’s actually happening:
This is classic spiritual grooming. If they cut you off from outside mirrors, they become your only reality. It’s how people end up deeply embedded in high-control groups before they realize it.
4. They flood you with praise early - then use withdrawal to control you.
This is love bombing dressed as spiritual recognition and its a classic pattern with narcissists:
“You’re one of the rare ones.”
“I’ve never met someone with your raw potential before.”
“You're going to be famous one day.”
“You were called to be in this circle.”
But later, if you question something:
You’re ignored, ghosted, or corrected publicly
You feel exiled from the “inner circle”
They talk about you indirectly through “downloads” or social media posts
Something else is indirectly withheld from you or you are excluded in some way
What’s actually happening:
They’re exploiting your need for belonging. Praise becomes a tool of compliance. Your nervous system bonds to them through intermittent reinforcement - the same manipulation pattern found in narcissistic abuse cycles. In other words, it mirrors the trauma loop - you’re praised, then punished and your nervous system stays locked in survival mode. The hot-cold inconsistency conditions your nervous system to crave their approval, even when it harms you.
5. They frame your boundaries as a flaw instead of a sign of self-trust.
Often trying to gaslight you into believing that your boundary is ego instead of wisdom.
You may say: “I’m not available for this anymore.”
They respond with things like:
“That’s a trauma response.”
“You’re avoiding your next level.”
“You don’t see what I see here.”
What’s actually happening:
They’re crossing boundaries and calling it growth. This frames your self-protection as a problem they need to fix - which keeps you open to further manipulation.
6. They mine your vulnerability but stay emotionally opaque.
They encourage you to share deeply. Trauma. Sex. Past wounds. Shame you may have struggled with. Soul connections, relationships, and contracts. But when you ask them anything real about their journey or wounds?
Deflection. Mysticism. Vagueness.
Or worse - they spiritualize their lack of transparency:
“I’m not meant to be understood in this lifetime.”
They may also play on this emotional intimacy later implying things like “don’t you remember our bond” or trying to manipulate you through guilt or false loyalty/intimacy dynamics.
What’s actually happening:
They want access to your root system while remaining untouchable. It gives them leverage and maintains power imbalance. This is energetic vampirism. Or, in other words, they feed off your energy to feel more powerful, whole, or in control - often without your full awareness or conscious consent.
7. They weaponize money, power, and pricing.
You express hesitation around a high-ticket offer and suddenly:
“That’s your scarcity mindset.”
“If you were truly embodied in your feminine, you’d invest.”
“If you don’t say yes now, you’re signaling to the universe you’re not ready.”
What’s actually happening:
They’re using shame to bypass your inner authority and decision making process. Your body says no - but they use spiritual guilt to twist it into a growth opportunity. This is manipulative sales masquerading as spiritual work.
8. They build loyalty in the name of soul family.
The group becomes your main identity:
Everyone speaks the same language
Doubters are labeled as “misaligned”, “still in ego”, lost or “unwell”, or simply “they don’t understand”
People who leave are spiritually diminished, ignored, talked or lied about behind closed doors. Sometimes they try to cast themselves as a victim or “energetically owed”. They may even “pray for” someone they outcast in public while relentlessly attacking them in private, to somehow appear as if they are providing a blessing or priestess-like guidance. It is a facade.
What’s actually happening:
You’re inside a high-control container. Loyalty replaces discernment. You learn that staying close to power is more important than staying close to truth. And you are groomed to have reward and reinforcement to stay in this loop.
9. They spiritualize their harmful behavior.
“I mirrored your wound so you could heal.”
“I’m triggering your shadow for your growth.”
“If you’re uncomfortable, it’s your ego resisting the truth.”
“You’re being tested.”
“I had to break you open to awaken you.”
“Your fear is blocking your breakthrough.”
“That’s just your trauma talking.”
“This is your destiny path” “We are soul bound to walk this together”
What’s actually happening:
They’re justifying harm. They want you to transmute their abuse instead of holding them accountable for it.
10. They “channel” messages about you that override your own knowing.
“Your guides told me you’re not ready".”
“In a past life, you betrayed me - and that’s why you’re afraid of me.”
“If you don’t work with me again, your timeline will collapse.”
What’s actually happening:
They’re hijacking your spiritual sovereignty. This is energetic coercion masked as guidance.
11. You leave their presence feeling unclear, anxious, or addicted.
You feel:
Drained
Disoriented
Unsure if it was amazing…or manipulative
Like you need them to feel whole again
What’s actually happening:
That’s the glamour effect. You were pulled out of your center and wired into their frequency. It’s not activation - it’s addiction. And your body knows the difference.
What a True Guide Actually Looks Like
Let’s name the opposite - so you remember what real power feels like.
A true guide:
Sharpens your discernment
Celebrates your no
Doesn’t push boundaries or distance
Wants you to outgrow them
Anchors you back into your body, not into their orbit
Can admit mistakes and take feedback
Answers your questions fully and honestly to the best that they are able
Celebrates your wins and encourages genuine community without gossip, backstabbing, ulterior motives, or competition and ego-based agendas
Closing Reflection
If you saw yourself in this list - not as the manipulator but as the one who’s walked through it - here’s what you need to hear:
You didn’t fail.
You didn’t fall behind.
You woke up.
You now have the eyes to see - and the spine to say:
I trust myself more than I trust your performance.
That’s what ends the cycle.
That’s what keeps your field sovereign.
That’s how we end glamour-based leadership - by refusing to follow it anymore.
Journal Prompts:
Where did I feel “off” but silence myself to stay in someone’s good graces?
What spiritual phrases made me doubt my instincts?
What does real, grounded leadership feel like in my body?
Next week, we will pivot from breakdown to breakthrough guiding you to reclaim your discernment in:
The Sovereign Path - Part 5. Reclaiming Your Sovereignty: 7 Keys for Spiritual Discernment
But before, stay tuned for a post that woke me up last night to write. Where we will shine a light on dark magick and its distorted forms that played out in this.
Until then, wishing you peace, reflection, and much love,
Seraphina