Sovereign Path Series: Part 7. The Real Work Begins: Sovereignty as a Lived Practice
A woman walks through an open field at dusk, her fingers grazing the tall grass - grounded unhurried, alone but not lost. The sky is soft, the earth steady. This is the moment after the fall, when clarity begins to grow roots.
The moment the illusion breaks is not the moment you feel free.
It's the moment you realize how much of your life was shaped inside someone else’s frame.
You saw through the manipulation. You named the false leader. You broke the pattern - quietly, bravely, without applause.
But now you’re standing in the echo - and it’s not liberation you always feel at first.
It’s disorientation. It’s grief.
You begin to realize - if the version of you that sought safety in dysfunction is gone - what rises in its place?
This isn’t the “empowerment moment” everyone talks about.
This is the invisible rebuild.
The quiet, often painful process of learning to live without the emotional scaffolding that once told you who you were, how to belong, and what to believe.
And this is where sovereignty begins.
Not in the rupture, but in the rebuild.
Not in the anger, but in the choices you make after it cools.
Not in theory, but in the small, lived decisions you make every day - when no one is watching.
This final chapter of The Sovereign Path isn’t here to inspire you.
It’s here to help ground you in what truth actually requires.
It’s here to walk with you as you meet the question:
Can I trust myself enough to be the authority now?
What No One Tells You About The “After”
Once you’ve seen through the illusion, the power games, or the manipulative group dynamic, you expect to feel powerful. Lighter. Stronger. Clearer.
But, instead, most people feel:
Wobbly: stripped of the emotional anchors that once kept you upright
Hyperaware: watching for betrayal in every room
Cynical or jaded
Exhausted: grieving time, energy, trust lost
Ashamed: for not seeing it sooner
Tempted: to soften the truth in exchange for belonging again
Uncertain: about who or what to trust - including themselves
Comfort becomes seductive.
Doubt becomes soothing.
And it’s easier to gaslight yourself than to face what your intuition already knew.
That’s not failure. It isn’t regression.
That’s withdrawal.
You’ve just unplugged from something that regulated your nervous system, even if it harmed you and distorted your perception of love, truth, or power.
The Science of Sovereignty: A Nervous System Perspective
When we’ve been in high-control environments - spiritual or otherwise - we become wired to external cues.
Over time, our sense of “safety” attaches, and becomes outsourced, to:
Approval
Certainty
Belonging
Authority figures, “elders”, or “guides” who seem to “know better”
Familiar patterns that help us feel in control
When that system collapses, it’s not just emotional-its somatic. Your body doesn’t yet know it’s safe. This is why people often go back - to the group, the teacher, the “maybe it wasn’t that bad”.
Not because they are weak or naive.
Because they haven’t yet learned to re-anchor in themselves. Their system is still frozen in fear, loyalty, or the illusion of comfort.
The work now isn’t just emotional.
Its physiological.
And it’s sacred.
Living Sovereignty in Real Life - What Embodied Sovereignty Actually Looks Like
Here’s what real sovereignty looks like - not as a concept, but in motion:
It’s not dramatic.
Its consistent.
And often invisible.
Choosing honesty over comfort.
Saying “I need space” when urgency pressures you
Listening to your body’s cues instead of overriding them for approval
Asking: “Is this true for me?” before accepting something blindly as wisdom
It’s noticing when you want to give your power away - even subtly.
It’s witnessing yourself in old patterns without shame - and choosing differently.
It’s leading yourself, when no one else is guiding you.
In Conversation:
You pause before agreeing.
You notice if your body tightens when someone speaks with authority and how you feel in conversations with people.
You say “I’m going to sit with that”, instead of reflexively nodding. You listen to your gut. Your discernment. Your instinct.
You notice if you are choosing comfort, familiarity, and acceptance over what truly aligns with your soul and feeds your vitality, goals, and dreams. Because glamour and manipulative tactics will dull your vitality - true life alignment will fuel it.
In Decision-Making:
You don’t ask five people what they’d do.
You weigh your values.
You ask, “What outcome feels most honest to me, even if it’s uncomfortable?”
In Relationships:
You no longer mistake intensity for intimacy.
You stop confusing being needed with being loved.
You speak your needs without demanding others meet them.
The Temptation to Return to False Safety
This is where many fall back asleep.
When faced with the pain of truth, people often bargain with the past.
“Maybe they didn’t mean harm.”
“It wasn’t that bad.”
“They helped me too.”
“This is part of my life path.”
“Maybe I misunderstood.”
“Who am I to judge?”
And if the community still offers warmth, acceptance, routine, identity?
It can be very tempting to return.
But, this is where you need to be brutally honest with yourself:
Are you choosing truth - or comfort?
Alignment - or appeasement?
Are you fueling your vitality and growth - or self sabotaging, avoiding, and sitting in denial?
Are you feeding cycles of confusion - or seeking deep truth within yourself?
Sometimes the most dangerous manipulation is the one you gaslight yourself into staying in - because leaving would mean facing your own complicity.
That is where ego steps out of balance and pride becomes your greatest adversary.
Sovereignty asks you to feel the shame, the regret, the grief…
and still not hand your power back.
The Slow Rebuild: A Different Kind of Strength
You can’t rebuild on false ground.
This part of the journey isn’t about doing more.
It’s about doing differently.
Reconnecting with your body as a compass
Rebuilding emotional safety from the inside out
Learning to hold complexity without collapsing
You don’t need a new group.
You need to build trust with yourself again.
And yes, it will feel lonely at first.
But you’re not abandoned.
You’re in between.
And that’s where your integrity roots itself for real.
Integration Tools for the New Foundation: Building Your Sovereignty Muscle
1.The Daily Truth Audit: Reclaiming Inner Authority
This isn’t just reflection. It’s self-leadership in real time; in micro-moments.
Each evening - or whenever you feel your energy was pulled off center - ask yourself:
Where did I override my inner knowing today?
Did I say yes when I meant no? Did I stay silent when I wanted to speak?
Where did I follow someone else’s voice instead of my own?
Was I trying to please, prove, or belong? Did I shrink to avoid discomfort? Am I still seeking external validation or approval?
Where did I hold my ground, even when it was hard?
Celebrate it. Mark it. This is you rebuilding self-trust.
What part of me needed support, clarity , or safety - and how can I offer it now?
This is not about judgement. It’s about self-nurturing, reparenting, and tending to your inner child.
Repeat this for 3 weeks. Patterns will emerge. You’ll begin to see, not just what pulls you off path - but what strengthens your center.
Sovereignty isn’t found in big declarations. It’s found in these micro-moments of honesty with yourself. Its found in the silent celebration of choosing yourself over and over, each and every day.
2. Embodied Reanchoring Practice: Teaching Your Nervous System You’re Safe Without Control
When you’ve lived inside distorted power dynamics - spiritual or relational - your body learns to associate certainty with safety. When illusion breaks, your nervous system often stays in fight/flight long after the threat is gone.
This practice helps rewire that response, so you stop chasing authority outside yourself.
Do this daily, especially after emotional activation:
Sit or lie down. Uncross your limbs. Breathe slowly into your belly.
Place one hand on your heart, one on your lower abdomen.
Say aloud:
I’m here now.
I am safe and I am loved.
I choose my pace.
I don’t need to know everything to be safe.
Scan your body for tension. Notice any urge to seek answers or fix a feeling.
Let the urge come.
Don’t follow it.
End with this statement:
I trust myself to lead, even in the unknown.
This rewires the loop that says “safety = control” and replaces it with “safety = presence”. Ultimately, it will help you to replace your need for control with presence.
You become your own anchor. Not the next method. Not the next mentor. You.
3. The Discernment Inventory: Clearing the Residue of Influence
When you’ve been shaped by systems that distorted truth in the name of love, light, power, or authority, discernment isn’t automatic. It must be rebuilt - carefully, intentionally, and with self-compassion.
This tool helps you check for lingering energetic or psychological residue - and teaches you how to recognize alignment from fear-driven loyalty.
Ask yourself regularly (weekly or when entering new spaces):
1. When someone inspires me, do I feel more connected to myself - or more dependent on them?
Do I leave their space with clarity - or with a desire to chase approval?
2. Does this person/path invite me deeper into personal responsibility or deeper into performance?
Are they creating mirrors - or contracts of silence?
3. What unspoken agreements am I making to stay connected here?
Am I betraying any truth to stay included?
4. Is this relationship helping me trust myself more - or trust myself less?
This is the litmus test.
Discernment doesn’t mean paranoia - it means presence. The goal isn’t to fear influence, but to recognize it before it becomes entanglement.
4. The Boundary Repatterning Practice: Saying No Without Explaining Yourself
One of the deepest wounds after spiritual distortion or people-pleasing systems is the belief that you must justify your clarity. That you must soften your no. Or earn your space.
This tool helps you reclaim boundaries as an act of self-trust, not defense. Reclaiming your “no” without guilt.
Practice this boundary repatterining once per day:
1.Say no to something low-stakes but automatic.
Decline a text conversation you don’t have energy for.
Don’t offer advice when you feel pressured to respond.
Postpone a task you are not emotionally available for.
2. Notice what rises.
Guilt? Fear of being misunderstood? Pressure to explain?
3. Breathe into the tension. Say silently (or aloud):
I am not responsible for managing someone else’s perception of my limits.
My boundary is not a betrayal.
4. Reflect with curiosity, not critique:
What part of me believes it must be liked or accepted to be valid?
This is nervous system work. Identity work. Integrity work. And it takes repetition to rewire. Start with the smallest no - and keep building from there.
The New Devotion: Self-Loyalty Over External Validation
Eventually, your choices no longer stem from fear.
They’re born from clarity.
Not from proving.
But from alignment.
Sovereignty doesn’t mean doing it alone.
It means not collapsing your truth to keep the peace and stay connected.
It means being able to:
Receive support without dependency or losing center
Love without self-abandonment
Speak without self-censorship
Connect without shape-shifting
This is the Path Now
You’re not looking for a new savior.
You’re not asking someone to hold what you’re fully capable of carrying.
You’re done choosing comfort over clarity.
You’re done gaslighting your gut and your future for someone else’s convenience.
You’re done bypassing what your body already knows.
Because now, you’ve remembered something ancient and immovable:
You are the authority you were waiting for.
You are the truth-teller now.
You are the one who sees clearly - and lives accordingly.
And you are recommitting to yourself, your future, and your highest good.
You’re no longer living for acceptance, answers, or permission.
You’re living in response to your own wisdom - however slowly it speaks, however inconvenient it feels.
This is sovereignty in practice:
Unpolished
Unapologetic
Unshakably yours
This isn’t about being perfect.
It’s about being honest enough to no longer betray yourself.
Because sovereignty isn’t just something you claim.
It’s something you build - moment by moment:
One choice at a time.
One boundary at a time.
One reclamation at a time.
And sometimes, one day at a time.
That is sovereignty.
And that is everything.
And if you’re still shaking while you walk it - you’re not alone.
Most of us are still learning to trust our own feet again.
But every honest step is sacred.
And you’re already further than you think.
The Sovereign Path - Part 4. Beneath the Glamour: Black Magick - The Invisible Hand That Binds
You don’t realize you’re in a cage until the spell breaks.
This post is the key.
Black magick doesn’t set you free. It just makes the cage feel divine.
In full disclaimer, I do not practice black magick. Until a few weeks ago, I couldn’t tell you the first thing about it. But, what has unfolded in the past few weeks has forced me into a very steep education and I’ve been shown about various elements at play. This post is written to cast a light on what was hidden - and through truth and awareness, offer a path back to your power and purpose.
Black magick doesn’t always wear a hooded cloak or cackle in the dark. Sometimes it smiles sweetly and tells you it’s here to help. Sometimes it builds community. Sometimes it hands you a mirror, only to hijack what you see in it.
This post is for anyone who has ever felt “off”, foggy, disoriented, or disempowered in a spiritual space that they once trusted. If you’ve ever questioned your instincts, ignored red flags, or felt bound to a person or teacher beyond reason - you’re not crazy. You may have been caught in an energetic web of manipulation.
If that’s you - this post is your lifeline.
Because I see you.
I’ve been you.
And its time to break the spell.
Why This Matters
The spiritual world is full of beauty and healing - but as with anything, duality is also at play, and it is also full of shadow.
Not because spirituality in itself is dangerous, but because anything powerful can be inverted.
Light attracts moths and predators.
And, if you’ve ever felt spiritually hijacked - bound to someone or something in the distorted name of “love” or “truth” - you know exactly what I’m taking about.
This post is not intended to scare you.
It’s to educate you, protect you, and ultimately help you reclaim your soul authority.
This is the post you didn’t know you needed - the one that makes you whisper “OMG, this is what happened to me”, and then helps you rise out of it, sovereign and whole.
What is Black Magick- Really?
At its core, black magick is the willful manipulation of energy, perception, or spiritual laws in order to bypass free will, control another’s path, or extract power for personal gain. It operates through distortion. Through coercion. Through theft of sovereignty.
It thrives in ambiguity, false compassion, and spiritual bypassing.
It may masquerade as guidance or healing. It may wear the mask of a teacher, It may speak the language of love, awakening, or truth.
But, at its root, black magick is inversion. Inversion is the act of turning something sacred inside out and using it as a tool of control:
Truth becomes gaslighting
Love becomes control
Devotion becomes enslavement
Initiation becomes trauma bonding
Reflection becomes projection
Service becomes sacrifice
It ultimately uses your goodness against you. Your empathy becomes a leash. Your desire to grow becomes entrapment. Your silence becomes consent.
It is not karmic. It is not shadow work. It is domination, carefully crafted manipulation, and it is a dangerous, parasitic theft.
And in my opinion, it’s critical to name it for what it is. Because trying to rationalize everything as “neutral” or part of the lesson” helps no one.
Black magick will never be neutralized with neutrality. Its goal is not healing. Its goal is dominion.
This is not the path of healing or shadow integration - it is the unhealed shadow acting through you, driven by the desire to possess and control.
Qlipothic Distortion & Misuse of Shadow
Let me be clear:
The Qlipoth itself is not evil.
The Qlipoth - also called the Tree of Death or the Shadow Tree - is a real, profound mystical system.
It’s a symbolic map of the psyche’s descent - into shadow, fragmentation, and the exiled parts the self.
When approached with reverence and integrity, it can lead to profound healing, transformation, and power reclamation.
A way to integrate what was once denied.
To reclaim personal sovereignty - not to steal anyone else’s.
But like any potent system, it can be distorted.
And when it is no longer used for self-integration- but instead for manipulation - that is how it gets twisted into a tool of control. And why it is so often found woven throughout black magick.
Examples - How This Plays Out In Practice
Qlipothic Chains - a tethering system of invisible energetic links designed to bind people into energetic submission; creating subtle but powerful compliance loops
Mantras -repeated phrases that layer intention into the field, bypassing logic and embedding control; not used for empowerment, but to override will and implant spiritual agreements.
Astral whispers in dream space or meditation - subtle energetic suggestions that sounded like intuition but instead create longing, craving, or guilt
Energetic architecture that mirrored Qlipothic descent - not as a personal rite but as a group mechanism to extract devotion, compliance, and psychic access.
I was shown these through visceral, embodied experiences. I could feel the energetic “chains” tightening in the field after being shown a ritual. I watched others become disoriented, hyper-attached, or psychically fogged, convinced it was their shadow coming up - when in truth, it was spell architecture being reinforced.
How Black Magick Distorts Spiritual Law
Black magick doesn’t operate in chaos - it thrives on inverting spiritual law - by subtly warping what is sacred.
Examples:
Sacred law of consent is replaced with illusion - You’re led to believe you’ve agreed - through mantras, soul contract language, or “remembering” - but there was no real choice. Only energetic coercion masked as destiny.
Sacred timing is replaced with entrapment cycles - Instead of trusting organic evolution, you’re looped into rituals or energetic bindings that keep you “working the process” indefinitely - never quite free, never quite whole, but always promised you’re almost there.
Law of Reflection is replaced with gaslighting - Your intuition is reframed as “ego”, your boundaries as resistance or “wounding”, and your clarity as “projection” - so that you doubt yourself and default to their version of truth.
Divine Will is replaced with manufactured fate - Instead of surrendering to Source, you’re funneled into a scripted path - crafted by someone else’s agenda but masked as your soul’s mission. Free will is bypassed under the illusion of sacred inevitability.
Initiation is replaced with control - what is presented as a rite of transformation is actually a rite of binding - designed to siphon your energy or block you, not awaken your power.
Why It Hooks So Deeply
Because it mirrors real shadow work just enough to confuse you.
You think you’re facing your shadow.
You think you’re healing.
You think this discomfort means you’re being initiated.
But in reality?
You’re being energetically manipulated.
You’re being spiritually tethered under the guise of transformation.
You’re giving consent without knowing it - because the architecture is designed that way.
And once you’re inside it, you begin to override your instincts.
You start to doubt yourself in the name of growth.
That’s not healing.
That’s spellwork that feeds on confusion, craving, and shame.
Let’s Name It Clearly
This isn’t the sacred descent into shadow or Qlipoth.
This is the strategic use of spiritual mechanics to entrap.
It’s not about owning your darkness.
It’s about someone else controlling the terrain of your soul - while convincing you it’s your own path.
The Qlipoth, like any archetypal map, can be approached with clarity, devotion, and consent.
But when its weaponized?
It becomes a psychic prison disguised as a temple.
The Core Distinction: Consent & Sovereignty
The true line between light and dark magick is consent. Light magick honors your will. It may challenge you. It may bring you to your knees with growth - but it never overrides your sovereignty. It moves with divine timing - not force.
Black magick however, overrides your will. It operates off of fear, seduction, confusion, glamour, or authority to coerce alignment. It bends reality to the will of the practitioner, regardless of the soul contract or true consent of the other.
In other words light magick liberates. Dark magick entraps.
Black magick is willful violation of spiritual law - especially the law of consent. And no matter how beautiful, enticing, or promising it may seem, if it binds you instead of freeing you, it is never light.
It often works much more subtly than you might expect through tactics such as:
Energetic tethering (cords, bindings, glamour)
Astral manipulation (dream invasion, watchers, etheric interference)
Sexual energy siphoning (often masked as intimacy or healing)
False soul contracts (initiations, vows, pacts made under duress or illusion, often without full conscious awareness)
Trauma bonding (bonding through shared wound or crisis, then controlling access to safety or love)
Mirror mimicry (reflecting your gifts or wounds back to you, then weaponizing them)
Power inversion (you’re told your instincts are ego; your clarity is projection)
It Works Because It Hooks The Wound
Black magick feeds on unhealed pain:
Your longing to belong
Your hunger to be chosen
Your desire to serve
Your fear of abandonment
Your rejection trauma
Your self-doubt
Your dreams of success
A skilled manipulator doesn’t create the wound - they simply exploit it. Light magick heals the inner child. Dark magick hooks it.
How to Know You’ve Been Touched By It
You might feel:
Emotionally fused to someone, even if you consciously know they are harming you
Fearful of “leaving” a group or teacher, as if you’ll spiritually regress or be cursed
Psychically fogged, disconnected from your own inner knowing
Drained or confused after interactions
Addicted to approval or “love” that comes with strings
Spiritually unsafe in your own space, dreams, or altar
If you in any way feel split from your own truth, or not in touch with your normally astute intuition, this may be why.
Tools of the Trade - How It All Works
Astral Work, Astral Tagging, Energetic Tethering, & Watchers: The Unseen Surveillance State
This layer rarely gets named but is critical:
Shadow magick workers often access your field during sleep or meditation, watching, planting, siphoning energy, and influencing your dreams.
Watchers are astral entities sent to observe or influence - not protect. This isn’t simply “checking in” and monitoring you - it is energetic trespassing, often disguised as connection, protection, or spiritual authority. These are cords that you never consented to - often created through group work, shared “healing” rituals, sex magick, trauma bonding, soul contract invocations, or emotional fusion. They create a feedback loop where your energy can be accessed, especially when you’re vulnerable.
Examples of How This May Be Used:
Ideas, images, or feelings may be implanted in your dreams to create doubt or longing; whatever suits the narrative they want to see in the physical
Your energy may be monitored for ‘weak spots’ - especially after trauma, expansion, or vulnerable sharing sessions
They may insert themselves during ritual you perform for yourself, feeding off your focus and spiritual openness
Spirits, familiars, or servitors may be assigned to “watch over” or even “police” your energy. You may notice:
Feeling “watched” during sacred work
Candles flickering with no draft
Sudden emotional shifts that are not your own
Erotic dreams with the wrong energetic feel
Feeling “tugged” back into connection after cutting cords
Disorientation
Flickering lights or a cold breeze when meditating, doing any ritual or divination work, etc.
Physical discomfort - energetically drained, sexually confused, brain fog, agitation or anxiety, upset stomach or other obscure somatic changes
You may feel like you “see” things - energetic eyes watching you, an observer in your dream space, forms or shadows peripherally, etc.
Interference with your intuitive clarity or sudden dread before speaking truth
These watchers aren’t protective of you - they are enforcers of an invisible energetic contract created to control you.
They keep you on the hook - through guilt, confusion, craving, or psychic interference. It is also a way to monitor your energy for shifts or keep tabs on you - always attempting to be one step ahead and strengthening spellwork if their grasp is slipping, etc. At the end of the day, this is a form of astral vampirism- feasting on your energy while whispering that they are helping you grow.
2. Glamour Magick & False Persona - The Illusion You Didn’t Consent To
Glamour magick is not about beauty - its about projection.
It doesn’t actually make someone more divine it simply makes you see them as such through a filter of intentionally crafted illusion. It makes you look like what someone else is desperate to see - a healer, a lover, a savior, a god.
Here’s how it works:
It reflects your deepest desires - what you truly want most (safety, love, purpose) - back to you like a mirror….creating spiritual seduction.
It energetically creates a sense of divine familiarity: “We’ve known each other for lifetimes….” “This is your soulmate, your guru, your destiny”
It loops your nervous system into dependency (fawn/freeze cycles) by giving you a hit of belonging and then threatening withdrawal if you pull away. “I can’t leave them - I owe them everything.”
You feel chosen. Safe. Seen.
“They see me. They know me. This connected must be fated.”
But in truth?
You’re falling in love with your own essence - just mirrored back to you through their mask.
3. Pacts & Ritual Coercion - The Silent Agreements That Bind
You don’t need to sign a document to be under a pact.
Pacts are formed when you unconsciously agree to believe, obey, or belong.
Even silently thinking:
“She knows more than me.”
“I’ll lose everything if I leave.”
“This is my soul contract.”
These thoughts, combined with energetic reinforcement (often ritual or astral work), bind you.
Even well-meaning group meditations, healing circles, and rituals can be manipulated to embed cords and control.
And, once you’re in…you own subconscious will keep you bound, even as your soul screams to get out.
You may not even realize what you agreed to until your life starts unraveling - or you try to walk away and feel psychically pulled back.
How You Might See This Play Out:
Creating a “shared mission” that becomes an unspoken soul pact
Channeling message that position them as your spiritual gatekeeper or interpreter
Using group rituals to anchor cords - without participants fully knowing what they are agreeing to.
You likely didn’t sign a physical contract - but your energetic consent was manipulated through language like:
“We’re soul family”
“This is part of your purpose”
“I’m helping you remember”
4. Sex Magick & Energetic Seduction- The Unexpected Energy Drain
Sexual energy is sacred. It is life force itself.
But in dark hands, it becomes a weapon.
In sacred tradition, it can heal, bond, awaken, and align,
In distorted form, it can bind, seduce, confuse, and control.
Because sexual energy bypasses logic and speaks directly to the subconscious, it becomes a gateway for manipulation.
During heightened arousal or emotional vulnerability, we become:
More open
More suggestible
More psychically porous
And that makes us prime for:
Cord creation
Energetic suggestion
False bonding
Soul mimicry
Here’s how it may be used in distorted form:
Used to tether you through sacral cords; or hook through shame, desire, or unhealed longing
Used to cast, amplify, and feed the practitioner’s glamour field so others fall under their spell and they appear more desirable, magnetic, and irresistable
Used to loop your heart and root so that your sense of safety, desire, and love become externally controlled
Creating psychic dependence - so your nervous system learns to seek approval from the creator
Bind someone to a group or teacher through nervous system oxytocin/dopamine loops
Implant beliefs or dependencies during vulnerable or altered states
Send sensual dream energy to fabricate a soul bond or mimic a connection; creating illusionary intimacy
Feed off arousal or confusion creating a feedback loop that tethers, disempowers, and weakens clarity
This is misuse of the sacred feminine in distorted form.
It is manipulated seduction.
It is spiritual abuse.
And no one is talking about it.
And here is the important part to understand if you are new to all of this - you do not need to have any physical contact or romantic intention for this to work.
It can all be done energetically, remotely, and very subtly - catching you off guard.
It happened to me.
I watched this play out energetically in myself and others within the group. The seduction was disguised as safety. The person leading it knew how to identify and prey upon trauma patterns - especially those involving abandonment, invisibility, and the desire for connection.
What they don’t tell you about distorted sexual energy:
It bypasses the logic. It lowers the guard of your conscious mind and directly transmits emotion and intention to the subconscious. You can feel connected to someone harming you and confuse it for love, karma, or fate.
It creates obsession chemistry - emotional highs followed by lows, guilt, confusion. Also mimicking trauma chemistry.
It rewires your nervous system to equate abuse with attachment.
It strengthens energetic bonds through dopamine, oxytocin, and psychic imprinting.
Because many people have wounding, longing, or repression tied to sex - it becomes a highly charged, easily exploitable force.
And, for a narcissist or manipulator, this cycle of intensity and depletion is exactly what they crave and thrive off of.
Red flags you may be bound through seduction:
You feel drained, confused, or even ashamed after interactions - even though they seem nurturing or “loving”
You second guess yourself constantly around them
You feel a sexual or romantic pull towards someone you don’t actually want - but you can’t stop thinking about them.
You’ve been told they are your “twin flame” or soul teacher, but it feels twisted or one sided.
They may use spiritual language like “divine feminine”, “tantric embodiment”, “kundalini activation” - but the energy feels off, heavy, overly intimate, or invasive.
In women this energy can actually show up as disempowerment in your own sacral or womb space - you may question your desirability, intuition, or magick.
5. Mirror Hijacking, Energetic Mimicry - Identity Theft
This tactic creates false resonance. They don’t actually embody your energy- they mimic it just enough to appear familiar.
It’s both glamour and theft.
Here’s how it works:
You begin to notice your words or tone “echoed” publicly by them - your insights, style, even your cadence reflected back at you.
If you’re empathic or psychically sensitive, you may feel them trying to access your field.
They may energetically mimic someone you trust - a person you’re bonded to, a soul connection - so they can trick your intuition into letting them in.
This is particularly dangerous because:
It can cause confusion in your intuitive signals
It can create emotional or psychic misfires, making you question your true connections
It may be used to replace or discredit your spiritual allies by impersonating them in dream space, energetic work, or spiritual downloads.
In short?
It’s not real connection.
It is a hijack of your energetic signature - twisted to suit their agenda.
6. False Oracle/Divination Manipulation
This form of manipulation builds trust while undermining you.
It looks like accurate messages, spiritual guidance, or psychic insight - but its all laced with control.
They may:
Deliver messages that feel true, but subtly push fear, guilt, or dependency
Use their spiritual authority to implant limiting beliefs and control narratives (ie. “This pain is karmic”, “You’re not ready to leave yet” etc)
Tap into your field without consent during readings - then reflect it back as if its divine guidance, when in fact it’s your own energy being distorted
This erodes trust in your own channel.
It trains you to look to them instead of your own inner knowing.
If your “spiritual guidance” ever becomes wrapped in fear, disempowerment, or the idea that you “can’t” do something without them - it’s not guidance. it’s manipulation.
If This Resonates
If reading any of this was disturbing to you, know you are not alone. These realizations not only shocked me, but they stirred deep grief, betrayal, rage, and brokenness.
But, once I began to understand the patterns, the spell broke.
That is exactly how black magick is dismantled:
Through clarity.
Through language.
Through seeing what was hidden.
Because unless you want to live at the mercy of someone else’s shadow, sick game, or soul agenda, you must reclaim your conscious will.
You are not here to be enslaved.
You are not here to be confused, coerced, or fed upon.
You are here to live autonomously, awake, and sovereign.
And let there be no doubt -
If you do not confront this,
you will become complicit in your own energetic imprisonment.
The longer you stay under this kind of magick:
The deeper the cords root
The more your own truth erodes
The duller your intuition becomes
The heavier your self-doubt grows
The more your identity is distorted - & reshaped by someone' else’s shadow
Eventually, your nervous system wires itself to believe:
Real love = danger
Safety = complacency
Belonging = surrendering your power
That is not safety.
It is theft, betrayal, and lies.
And it will lead to a silent death of your soul.
The Antidote Is Not More Protection Spells - It’s Embodied Sovereignty
Protection rituals have their place - but they cannot save you from what you continue to energetically permit.
You break black magick through:
Embodied clarity
Naming what’s happening
Exercising your will
Speaking the truth
Establishing energetic and relational boundaries
Reconnecting to your inner compass - your intuition
You don’t need to be perfect.
You need to be present and awake.
And you need to trust yourself again.
Because your clarity will dismantle the illusion.
My Story. My Turning Point.
Everything I’ve shared, I experienced or witnessed in the group I was once a part of. These are just a few of the black magick tactics I have identified. I am sure there are likely others beyond what I’ve described here, that were at play.
And to be clear - it was covert. Cloaked.
I didn’t know this person was practicing anything dark. Had I known, I would have never studied with her.
She is highly trained in astral and energetic work. Which made this much harder to spot - and even harder to untangle.
But now? I see clearly.
What she took from me can be reclaimed.
She holds no power over me.
Because now, my eyes are wide open. My field is sealed. My truth is alive.
Compassion With Boundaries
There is a very real part of me that holds deep compassion for this person. I see the wounded inner child behind her mask. I see the walls of protection she has built from these shadows. And I sense all of the false promises of greatness, healing, and fulfillment she has been sold to persuade her along this path.
And these are the parts I can hold with love. To genuinely wish her healing.
For the love she never received and so greatly deserves.
For the truth - the inner knowing that all the power and worth she seeks outside herself is already held within her.
For the reflection in recognizing she is wildly gifted and beautiful on her own, inherent merit.
I see the desire for love, safety, and validation that are twisted into manipulation and control.
She deserves wholeness, true love, and joy in her life -and, with every bone in my body, I truly do hope that she finds them.
But this is no longer mine to carry.
For too long this has been my pattern - to over-give, over-fix, and over-help. To carry responsibility that was never mine to shoulder.
Compassion does not require sacrifice.
Empathy does not mean enabling.
I can love from afar - within the container it belongs.
Not as something I carry.
As something I witness and release.
You Can Too
If you have ever been caught in something like this, I want you to know.
You can heal.
You can reclaim what was lost.
You can walk forward more sovereign than ever before.
But, you must choose.
Because if you don’t - if you let this fester - if you let the shame win, if you let the fear sit unchallenged, or give power to the tiny part of you still holding out for the hope this wasn’t illusion, you’re not just abandoning yourself.
You are empowering the very person who has already taken too much.
Reclaim your radiance.
Reclaim your voice.
Reclaim your soul.
A new chapter is waiting ahead for you.
And you are more ready than you think.
I can’t wait to watch this unfold for you,
Seraph
The Sovereign Path - Part 2: Beyond the Glamour - Naming the Other Faces of Energetic Manipulation
You rise not just from pain, but from clarity. Truth is the flame that sets you free.
Seeing the Unseen and Naming What Tried To Own You
There comes a moment on the path of spiritual manipulation discovery when something inside of you whispers:
This isn’t truth anymore.
At first, it may be quiet.
A low hum of uneasiness. A tug in your gut. A tension in your throat or chest. A flicker of dissonance you can’t quite name.
A sense that something just…doesn’t feel clean.
You try to override it.
You tell yourself you’re being too sensitive.
Too reactive. Too paranoid. Too ungrateful.
Too….much.
You silence your own knowing in the name of spiritual maturity. Or perhaps, just simply, to fit in or accept and “go with the flow”.
But your body knows. Your dreams know. Your soul knows.
And your body remembers what your mind has learned to rationalize.
And eventually - if you’re brave enough to listen - you can’t unknow it.
That moment?
It’s sacred.
Because its the beginning of your return.
When the Teacher Becomes the Test
We don’t talk enough about what happens when the very people or spaces that we go to heal or learn from - who perhaps helped to awaken us… become the very thing we must awaken from.
There’s a particular kind of grief that comes with realizing that someone you once trusted with your soul growth has been distorting your truth.
When the veil is finally torn and what once felt confusing, distorted, or “off” comes sharply into focus.
And what you thought was love, healing, or leadership…is suddenly revealed as something else entirely.
There are some wounds we don’t realize we carry until someone touches them.
There are also moments when the illusion shatters.
When the spell breaks.
When the truth pierces through the fog.
And in that moment, the betrayal hits.
The shock lands.
The grief arrives.
And, if you’re anything like me, you didn’t want to see it.
Because seeing it meant everything had to change.
But as painful as it is - the truth is also the medicine.
What Pluto in Aquarius Is Demanding of Us
This isn’t just personal. And it isn’t just my story.
Pluto in Aquarius is pulling back the curtain on every illusion baked into our collective systems - especially those that cloak control as community and ego as enlightenment.
As he begins his long journey through Aquarius, we are all entering a collective spiritual detox.
We’re being asked to shed the spiritual hierarchies that teach us to give our power away.
To name where we’ve outsourced our clarity in the name of harmony.
To stop confusing loyalty with silence.
The age of false teachers, polished personas, performative stature, and blind devotion is crumbling.
As the planet of death and rebirth moves through the sign of collective systems, higher vision, and future truth, it is burning through the glamour of spiritual elitism. It’s unraveling the teacher-student dynamic where power was hoarded, not shared. Where charisma was mistaken for wisdom. Where obedience was rewarded, and sovereignty was diminished. Where the spiritual gurus instead of community are celebrated.
Because Pluto could care less about appearances.
He’s asking us to learn to listen for truth not in the voice of a polished guide, but in the resonance within our own body.
He wants to help us unearth the real, gritty truth. To drop the mask and align with our most authentic self. And he will always find it, and strip us - bare to the root - to help get us there.
And while not always pleasant, he does so with the sole intention of helping to align us with our highest purpose and path.
Pluto in Aquarius is burning through:
Toxic teacher-student dynamics
Hierarchies disguised as healing
Communities that spiritualize silence and shame
Top-down hierarchal leadership and approach (as it builds on, and transitions us, from Capricorn)
Practices that police your truth instead of holding it
Spiritual containers where performance is valued over presence
And what’s rising in its place is embodied, reciprocal connection.
Not rejection of the sacred.
But, a reclamation of the real thing.
We are being invited to step into greater authenticity and learn to trust and lead ourselves.
To unlearn the pattern to bowing to those who only bless us when we obey or elevate them.
Energetic Manipulation Doesn’t Always Look Like You Think
When we think of spiritual manipulation, we tend to imagine dramatic cults or overtly abusive leaders.
But in reality?
It’s often far more subtle.
More seductive.
More confusing.
And in spiritual spaces, manipulation tends to wear a prettier face.
It can look like:
Being love-bombed with affirmations right after expressing discomfort or doubt.
Being told your resistance is a sign you’re not “in alignment”
Watching a leader subtly pit followers against one another to maintain control
Hearing that leaving the group means you’re abandoning your “highest path”
Feeling your clarity eroded by feedback disguised as “mirroring” or “mentoring”
These aren’t just red flags.
They’re energetic bindings.
And if you’ve walked through them - especially if you’re only now unraveling from them - I want you to hear me.
You are not crazy. You are not broken.
You are not wrong.
You are waking up.
What I Didn’t Know To Name Until I Lived It
I was forced to face and deal with a kind of manipulation that I wasn’t even aware existed - because it wasn’t loud. It was subtle. Spiritual. Polished. It didn’t scream or demand. It came softly. Wrapped in praise. Dressed as “sisterhood”. Hidden in healing circles, Reiki containers, private DMs, mentoring sessions, or those seemingly innocent “check-ins” that left me questioning myself instead of feeling genuinely empowered and supported.
This post is for those of you who - like me - might not have had language for this. Who brushed off your intuition. Who dismissed or explained away the pings in your gut as insecurity, coincidence, fear, or confusion. Who kept giving the benefit of the doubt while your soul quietly begged you to pay attention.
It’s for those of you who have had their light seen - but not honored.
Their voice praised - but only when it served someone else’s narrative.
Their gifts used - but never truly received.
This is not a post to blame. It is a post to name.
Because if we can’t name what happened, we can’t reclaim our own power.
This is about healing what has been hidden in plain sight - so that we can walk forward in truth.
So let’s talk about the different energetic manipulation tactics that I mentioned in my last post. These are a few that I discovered were being used in a community I was once a part of.
Glamour Magick - The Mask of “Perfection”
What it is: Glamour magic is a technique that has been used for centuries to enhance beauty. It is a spell of perception - used consciously or unconsciously to cast an illusion. It alters how others see the caster. But, in its shadow form, it becomes a mask of perfection, power, or mirror of other idealism, that hides the true motives that lie underneath. It is the deliberate manipulation of perception to create an image so potent it draws people in like a moth to flame. The danger is that you don’t see the casting person clearly. You see the projection. The illusion. The mask that they want you to see.
How it was used: I watched a spiritual teacher present themselves as the exact embodiment of what other’s desired - a truth-speaker, a radiant muse of idealized love, a healer, a spiritual “authority”. But that image was carefully crafted and did not match the shadow behind the scenes. They used glamour to appear as a devoted spiritual authority, while behaving manipulatively. They masked envy, insecurity, greed, and competition behind performative support. And, they were able to maintain admiration and loyalty, even while intentionally harming and weakening others in the group.
Glamour doesn’t steal your energy directly - it seduces it. It makes you question your instincts. You know that something is off, but it appears so alluring on the surface that you dismiss your gut instincts and gaslight yourself into ignoring the deeper, not-quite-so-pleasant truth. And so ultimately, your discernment - the clearest expression of your intuitive voice - becomes foggy and silenced. Please see Part 1 where we go into more detail about how this cycle works.
Signs that might indicate you are under someone’s glamour:
You feel confused around them and find yourself doubting your gut instincts and intuition
You place them on a pedestal - they may appear like they can do no wrong or are the greatest X,Y,Z - without really knowing why
You excuse behaviors in them that you would not tolerate in others
Others around them appear overly loyal without solid reason
Energy Manipulation through Healing Arts, Such as Reiki
What it is: Energy healing is sacred. But, like any tool or practice, it can be misused. Duality is always present in life; just as there is light, there is dark, just as there is a highest potential of sign, placement, or healing art, there is a low potential or shadow that can equally exist if chosen. When someone connects to your energy field without consent, attaches to your aura during sessions or meditations, or decides to embed their own thought forms, programming, or energetic agenda while you are open and vulnerable during a healing session, it becomes invasive and misused. Energy healing without clear boundaries is, more accurately, psychic invasion. And lets be very clear, this is spiritual abuse.
How It was used: I trusted someone who worked with Reiki and spiritual energy. But I realized they were accessing my field (and others) without permission, trying to pull cords and influence my thoughts, destiny, timelines, and actions, and monitoring my inner world strategically. This wasn’t support. It was a way to stay tethered to my field and attempt to manipulate me. It was used to try to silence me and make me energetically disoriented. Others, had thought forms embedded which altered their energetic perceptions, reactions, and internal reality.
Signs that you might be experiencing energetic manipulation through Reiki or another healing art:
You feel watched or emotionally influenced even when you are alone; you may feel this energetically, emotionally, or even somatically, but are unable to prove it
You may feel confused, like your intuition is “off”
You find yourself feeling drained after a conversation or session
You notice sudden anxiety, grief, or other emotions that aren’t your own; you may feel emotionally confused or scrambled
Your dreams change perhaps feeling hijacked or you notice your thought patterns subtly change
You notice an atypical energetic shift - perhaps you become suddenly agitated or angry with someone or you find yourself looking at someone in a totally new way, out of the blue
You may feel restless or ungrounded
You doubt yourself
Triangulation - The Silent Divide
What it is: Triangulation is the subtle art of splitting. A psychological and energetic tactic where someone pits people against each other or positions themselves as the “chosen” one in the middle. It intentionally keeps people divided, mistrusting, and dependent on a central figure or intended narrative. It is designed to create confusion, loyalty tests, and often targets your voice, preventing you and others involved from speaking directly. In spiritual communities, it can look like someone who appears to “hold the group together” but is actually controlling the flow of truth by manipulating communication. Triangulation isolates you from your authentic expression. You become afraid to speak openly. You begin “checking” yourself. You stop trusting others, and ultimately even yourself. Your voice dims because you no longer know clearly who is safe. You were praised for silence and punished passively for honesty. You are afraid of being misquoted or gossiped about. It is akin to an energetic muzzle.
How it was used: I was encouraged to confide in private sessions, then subtly isolated from others in the group. Some of my, and other’s, most vulnerable shares, wounds, and trauma were used and exploited. Compliments were used as currency. Secrets and gossip were weaponized. In other cases they may have shared what others had said about a person - sometimes to flatter, sometimes to “warn” - but ultimately to manipulate loyalties and a sense of intimate, or “special” connection. In at least one conversation she simply made up past life stories to build a sense of connection that was never there organically, but when “glamoured” was an easier sell than it would have been normally. Very tactical things were said and done to keep each person orbiting the creator, and ultimately out of connection with each other. Severing or altering connections strategically to achieve a set agenda but meanwhile sacrificing connections that I valued. I noticed shifts in my friendships and unexplained tensions out of the blue. But to others, she always knew just the right thing to say to everyone to keep things under control. But here is the key, everyone thought she was only loyal to them.
Signs that you might be experiencing triangulation:
You’re constantly “checking” what’s safe to say, or you find yourself afraid or uncertain of sharing your truth
You feel closer to the manipulator than to others in the group; even if you hadn’t been that close to them previously and interpersonal dynamics with others you had been close to, and connected with, seem to subtly shift
You find tension in relationships with others that used to feel easy
You may learn others were told very different versions of events*
Private information may be freely shared even if your relationship with the manipulator doesn’t support that level of intimate exchange or casual dynamic
Your relationship with the manipulator, if in a position of authority, may change and become more casual or extend outside the lines of the professional rapport and exchange you once held
*This is a core tool often used. It keeps people disconnected from each other and makes it difficult to know who to trust. It is intended to confuse and create dependency. The manipulator controls the narrative and appears like a victim to one person and a hero to another, painting a target as“the problem” in a subtle, deniable way. When you realize someone else was told a different version of the same event it creates a cycle of self-doubt seeding confusion, shame, and silence and making the target easier to gaslight, discredit, and alienate. Ultimately, making it easier for the manipulator to appear “innocent” and control the narrative as you are encouraged to seek approval from them rather than tuning into your own truth. It discourages note checking, blocks healthy communication, and prevents unity between those who might otherwise see through the manipulator.
Energetic Vampirism - The Hidden Hunger Beneath
What it is: Energetic vampirism is when someone feeds on your light, love, ideas, presence, or attention to fuel themselves - without giving back in equal measure. It is one of the most misunderstood forms of manipulation in spiritual communities. Often they flatter or praise you to gain access to your energy, then slowly drain you. It can be conscious or unconscious. But the end result is the same: you feel emptied. They take your energy to maintain their own power, image, or sense of identity.
How it was used: In my experience, this kind of energetic entanglement didn’t look like overt manipulation at first - it was the most tricky to distinguish. It showed up as mirroring - my insights reflected back to me as if they had originated elsewhere. My content and ideas began showing up in other places, uncredited but unmistakably familiar. I saw this happen with others also. Certain people’s energy seemed to be used as a kind of energetic anchor - I saw this both in her energetically mimicking and also sometimes in the group dynamic, where it helped attract or hold attention. And, when I quietly left (for reasons I’ve shared elsewhere), there were very clear, unnecessary energetic manipulations and lies woven into a made-up narrative. It was disorienting and confusing at first - because the relationship had been framed as supportive and even sisterly. But the deeper I tuned in, the more I could feel: this wasn’t collaboration. It was extraction. Personal energy wasn’t being honored - it was being harvested for her personal benefit. If someone consistently takes more than they give, probes your field without permission, or relies on your gifts while subtly diminishing your voice - that is not mentorship. That is not healing. Even if it’s wrapped in spiritual language or cloaked in care. True support empowers your sovereignty. It doesn’t siphon your energy.
Signs you may be being siphoned energetically:
You feel tired, heavy, or “off” - without a known cause- after interactions
Your ideas are repackaged or claimed (subtle energy harvesting; offered as collaboration but feels like depletion)
You may sense someone “needs” you energetically in a way that feels sticky or unclear
You leave a conversation and feel empty, not seen
You begin to second guess the worth of your gifts
You begin to feel gaslit into thinking the other person “made you” or “helped you”
You may feel dependent upon them in a way you can’t directly explain
Conversely, you may be told something privately, like “the group felt weird after you spoke”, intended to make you feel “psychically punished” for speaking; this is vampirism through emotional suppression and psychic control of group energy
Trauma bond hooking; you are positioned as the only one who can help or “get them” and they siphon off your empathy. This may make you feel guilty or disloyal for pulling away or needing space
Community & Ritual Should be Safe. Not Silencing.
True sacred space doesn’t censor you.
It holds you.
It honors your unique voice.
It invites your full, embodied presence - even when that presence is trembling or messy.
Community should never demand your silence. Nor your conformity.
It should never require your self-erasure in the name of spiritual decorum.
We are in a collective reckoning.
A sacred breaking-open.
A rising tide of truth and reclamation.
And the false teacher archetype is being exposed - not only in my group, but elsewhere.
Many are awakening to how distorted systems of power-especially spiritual ones have manipulated doctrine, ritual, and truth for control.
But we are being invited to change. To break the silence and call out the distortions and abuse. And, to honor sacred leadership.
And, when you do so you are helping to midwife that change.
It’s okay to question what you were taught.
It’s okay to outgrow a “spiritual leader”.
You are allowed to listen to your inner oracle above all else.
Because a true spiritual leader doesn’t chain you to tradition - they help you open the sacred door within.
True spiritual connection never demands your silence, obedience, or sacrifice of self.
It recognizes you. Meets you. And liberates you.
If it asks you to shrink, it is not your mirror.
If You’re In The Rubble, You’re Not Alone
If you’re still untangling…
If your heart is broken and your voice is shaky…
If you’re afraid to speak because you still care for the people you are walking away from…
That is sacred, too.
This isn’t a call to burn it all down.
It’s a call to get honest about what is no longer true. To call out the distortions. And, most importantly to find and align with your inner truth - and honor it.
To stop gaslighting yourself for noticing what your body has been trying to say.
To reclaim your clarity - and begin again.
Because when you reclaim your voice,
You’re not just healing your story -
You’re helping someone else find the courage to start theirs.
Reclaiming Your Sovereignty - This Is The Work
I didn’t want to believe any of this was happening at first. I had ignored warning pings for months, and gaslit and dismissed my deeper intuition. This was my friend, I had invited this person and their family to my home for vacation. I told myself there was no way this could be true. But, my body and my intuition would not let go. And, finally I sat with it and realized there were deeper layers than met the eye. And this was the quiet, brutal moment when I realized I could either keep pretending I didn’t see….or walk away from a group I had grown to care for and risk being exiled for naming what was real.
The choice cracked me open. And I chose to walk away and speak my truth in my own way.
And while that hasn’t been easy, what I found on the other side of the silence was a deeper connection to myself.
Not a version molded, controlled, or limited by someone else’s system.
Not a seeker defined by someone else’s light.
But the wild, honest, messy, sovereign truth of my own becoming.
I’ve learned many valuable lessons in this experience. One of them, is the reminder that real healing includes the Sword of Truth. Radical honesty with yourself and the facts. The Swords (in Tarot) cut illusion - allowing us to more readily see the truth and bring back home all of the pieces. One important part of spiritual maturity is not bypassing the shadow - it’s naming it with love. And then choosing to step out of its grip. Even, when that choice is hard. Because choosing ourselves, choosing authenticity - it will always lead you to more wholeness.
If you are navigating a similar path, let this truth be your torch.
You were never meant to stay silent in a system that survives by your silence.
You were always meant to rise.
And you do this by stepping into alignment with yourself - your discernment and your own internal truth.
And as you do so, you are reclaiming yourself - piece by piece, truth by truth.
This journey isn’t about perfection. It’s about seeing clearly, choosing consciously, and rising with your integrity intact. You will emerge stronger, more confident, humbler, and more empowered than ever before.
Because you were never meant to stay asleep in someone else’s dream.
Your soul came here to remember, to rise, and to reclaim what was always yours.
Keep going - your truth is your liberation.
In Part 3 of the Sovereign Path, we’ll explore the red flags of false teachers - because naming the energy is only the beginning - next we learn to spot the ones who wield it so we never fall prey to this again.
Until next time.
With so much love and compassion as you continue on your journey,
Seraphina
The Sovereign Path - Part 1: Spiritual Glamour & The Hidden Mechanics of Manipulation
The spell is broken. What remains is truth - and the woman who returned to it.
Introduction: When Power Looks Like Light
There’s a kind of harm that doesn’t announce itself as danger.
It arrives as a light. It enters with praise, presence, and the illusion of sacred connection.
You feel seen. Recognized. Chosen.
And that is exactly what makes it so dangerous.
Because when later - when the spell breaks - you’re left in pieces, wondering what was real.
When you’re hurt by someone in spiritual authority - when someone you trust on a spiritual level uses their gifts - or the illusion of them - to control, distort, or spiritually seduce….
It doesn’t just shake your trust in them.
It shakes your trust in yourself.
This is spiritual glamour: when someone uses mysticism, charisma, or spiritual authority to distort your perception, override your intuition, and gain energetic access to your field.
It is not always intentional, but it’s always real.
And the effects are deeper than most people realize.
What Is Spiritual Glamour Really?
At its core, glamour is a psychic mirage - it manipulates image, energy, and influence.
It distorts truth - bending the light around someone to make them appear more enlightened, more trustworthy, more aligned than they really are.
Historically, the word glamour referred to a literal enchantment: a spell cast to cloud perception and produce illusion. And, it’s been around, and in use, for millennia. Today, it operates in new-age spaces in new, more subtle ways:
Carefully curated personas of wisdom and light, designed to earn your trust and dependence
Mystical gatekeeping (positioning as the “only one” who can access divine truth)
Performative humility or vulnerability designed to disarm
Psychic insight weaponized for control
Charisma mistaken for credibility
Unquestioned authority in group dynamics - this might show up as shutting down anyone who challenges them by calling it “ego” or “projection”. Disagreement is framed as “resistance to growth”, etc.
Love-bombing as initiation - you join the group and are immediately praised: “you’re so intuitive”, “you are clearly meant to be here”, “you’re one of the gifted ones”
Outsider fear narratives - people who walk away are spoken about as “spiritually lost or confused”, “struggling”, etc.
Constant “initiation” cycles with no end - always enough praise to give you a sense that you’re almost there, but not quite; ie. “you’re not ready for that yet” - there is always a new offering, course, or mentoring session to take
The key isn’t in how it looks - but in how it makes you feel:
Enchanted. Confused. Dependent. Disoriented. Small.
Sadly, it is more common than you might think.
And it thrives where power meets unprocessed pain.
Why It Works: The Perfect Storm of Wound + Want
Glamour doesn’t just work on your mind.
It hooks on your wounds.
It works because it doesn’t target your logic - it targets your unmet needs.
It works on the part of you that:
Was emotionally neglected and still seeks a wise caretaker
Longs to feel special or “chosen”
Hasn’t yet fully owned their own gifts, power, or discernment
Lacks sovereign trust; believes others know better than you
Craves a shortcut through suffering; your unconscious belief that someone else holds the keys to your healing
Deeply desires to belong or fit into community or group family
Longing to feel safe in a chaotic world
It’s almost always subconscious. And that is the most devastating part.
Some part of you agreed to this.
Not because you’re weak. Not because you’re broken. But because you were vulnerable - and someone recognized that. And instead of protecting that part of you, they exploited it. Instead of protecting your openness to what you most desired - them to be safe, guide you in healing and growth, and be who they said they were - they took advantage and used it.
That is the betrayal.
Let’s Name It Plainly: This is Predatory
People who glamour others don’t usually call it manipulation.
They call it magnetism. They call it teaching. They call it alignment.
But energetically - it’s an override. A hijack. A glamour cast through unspoken contracts that say:
“I will play the part you want me to be…as long as you stay small.”
“I will hold the mirror…but only if you reflect back what I want to see.”
“I will guide you…but only toward me.”
“I’ll see you - but only if you don’t outshine me.”
Energetically, it hijacks your nervous system through attention, intensity, and perceived spiritual authority. The person becomes a false source of light, and you subconsciously start outsourcing your discernment to stay close to it.
And the moment you question it?
The mask slips. The light flickers. And you’re suddenly cast as the problem.
Energetic Signs You’ve Been Glamoured:
A sense of psychic fatigue or mental fog around the person
You questioned your instincts, or dismissed them, but stayed anyway
You gave more than felt safe or aligned - time, energy, money, access, etc.
Anxiety about speaking up or challenging them
Feeling like you are both magnetized and repelled at the same time
Memories may feel distorted or unclear
You downplay your gifts in their presence
You feel deep grief, shame, fatigue, or otherwise depression in your field or energy
Feeling ungrounded, off-center, or just an overall feeling of not being yourself when around them
Overly optimistic or conversely pessimistic or confused about someone or something you previously thought you felt clarity with
You walked away confused, ashamed, or unsure of what really happened
When Your Nervous System Is In Conflict With Your Soul
This experience leaves you fractured.
Your body senses something is off, but your mind spiritualizes, or tries to otherwise rationalize, it.
You tell yourself you’re being tested, initiated, asked to surrender.
You tell yourself it’s your karma. Your shadow.
You silence your instincts - you keep showing up, doubting your gut, shrinking your voice.
This is how glamour keeps you trapped- not by force - but by getting you to silence yourself. By doubting yourself. By dulling your own intuition.
The truth begins to return when you stop translating harm into spiritual lessons - and start listening to your body. That quiet tension in your chest. The nausea in your gut. The subtle “no” that has been whispering to you the whole time.
The Sovereignty Layer: Creatorhood & Consent
This is the hardest part to hold - but it is also your portal out.
It is the part that many spiritual teachings ignore - but is the key to your liberation:
Nothing enters your energetic field without some form of consent.
This doesn’t mean that you asked for harm. It means that on some deep level - often unconscious, often rooted in trauma, longing, or programming - you allowed the illusion in.
Maybe it was the desire to feel safe.
To be validated.
To be told what to do and be guided by someone who looked the part.
That isn’t shameful. That’s human.
But, this is where Creatorhood comes in.
Being a creator means you reclaim authorship over your energy. It means you recognize that your focus, your belief, and your boundaries are what give something shape in your reality.
Creatorhood says:
Your field is sacred
Every agreement you make -spoken or silent - shapes your energy field
Energy follows permission - even the unspoken kind
What you give power to owns space in your field - until you take it back
What you allow, you co-create
Essentially, it reminds us that you don’t need to light a candle to cast a spell - just believing someone else over yourself is enough.
And, when you acknowledge and see this clearly, you stop asking:
Why did they do this to me?
And instead you start asking: What part of me believed they needed to?
This is where victimhood ends. And not because the abuse wasn’t real - but because you choose to become the one who protects your field, rewrites the story, and dissolves the illusion from the root. Because you have made the decision to reclaim your sovereignty and say no to giving it more power.
So How Do You Break The Spell?
The truth is - it’s not as complicated as it feels.
You don’t need an elaborate ritual or an outside healer to fix you.
You don’t need revenge, closure, or to make them admit what they did.
The spell breaks the moment you stop believing the lie.
Once you recognize glamour for what it is - an energetic illusion fed by your conscious agreement - you begin to cut the cord with presence alone.
Clarity is the disruption.
And your withdrawal of consent is the protection.
From there your healing work is simple but sacred:
Detach your energy from the illusion
Refuse to feed it with your energy, fear, or fixation
Create & anchor into firm energetic and psychic boundaries
Reclaim your own voice as the source of your truth - the only authority you allow in your field
Lean into the deeper healing and shadow work around the original wound - the vulnerability that allowed access in the first place
This is what closes the portal.
No one can tether you again if there is nothing left to hook.
You don’t fight glamour - You see it with clarity for what it is. You starve it. You outgrow it. You walk away clean.
Your Pain Was the Portal - Not the Price
If you were glamoured, it doesn’t mean you were naive.
It means you were open. Trusting. Reaching for something sacred.
They didn’t steal your power.
They activated the part of you that hadn’t yet claimed it.
That is the real alchemy of betrayal - it carves out the space where your full self is invited back in.
And this, is where the real magic - and the gift of this - lies, once you claim it.
Somatic Clarity Returns When The Glamour Breaks
The moment you see it - the false light, the field manipulation, the hollow teachings - you feel it physically.
Your body exhales.
Your shoulders drop.
The dizziness stops.
You feel lighter. More yourself. Your voice returns.
The truth re-enters like oxygen.
And it often comes with rage. Grief. Grief for the time lost. For the betrayal. For the way you stopped trusting yourself.
And that is sacred. Because that grief is the beginning of your freedom.
The Emotional Aftermath: Grief, Guilt, & Withdrawal
Let’s be honest - breaking the glamour isn’t the hardest part.
Its what comes after that guts you.
You’re not just walking away from manipulation.
You’re walking away from the hope that this person or path was true.
You’re grieving:
The connection you thought it was
The part of you that deeply trusted
The identity or belonging that tied you to that space.
You may feel guilt for leaving. Shame for “falling for it”. Or even fear about what people will think.
When these thoughts surface, see them for what they are. These are trauma responses - not truth.
And the longer you stay focused on what you “should have seen”, the longer you delay the reclamation that’s trying to happen now.
So those gaslighting thoughts of shame?
That misplaced loyalty to the one who glamoured you?
The guilt for pulling away? The fear that naming it means you’re “not spiritual enough”?
Strip them down to what they really are:
Distractions. Delays. False roadblocks to your self-reclamation.
They are part of the spell - residue from an illusion that told you your worth was tied to someone' else’s validation.
Tear that shame out at the root.
Cut the guilt loose.
And see the fear for what it is: the final guardian at the gate of your power.
You owe no loyalty to the one who distorted your light.
The only reverence you’re required to give is to yourself - and the truth that has been waiting inside you all along.
And this…
This is not where you broke.
This is where your healing begins.
Not in their redemption.
But in your own return.
How to Break the Glamour & Reclaim Your Energy
This isn’t about revenge. It is about removal - from their field, their narrative, and from every ounce of their influence.
Here are some simple practices that may help:
Interrupt the Fantasy with Reality
Write it out:
What they said vs. what they did
What your gut actually felt that your mind overrode
The moment you started disconnecting from yourself
This clarity will help break the cognitive dissonance that keeps you tethered.
2. Cut the Energetic Access
Delete texts, photos, and any links that keep them psychically present
Do a field clearing: sage, prayer, salt - whatever works for you
Say aloud: “I revoke all consent. You no longer have access to me.”
It doesn’t have to be elaborate. It just needs to be done with intention and conviction.
3. Regulate Your Nervous System
Breathe. Move. Get outside. Touch the earth. Take a cold shower.
These actions help you re-embody and send the internal message: I’m here. I’m safe. I’m back in my own body.
Glamour works by disembodying you. Return to yourself through sensation and deep grounding.
4. Don’t Bypass the Grief
Let yourself feel the loss. You’re not just losing a person - you’re letting go of the illusion of what you wanted them to be. That’s a sacred ending. It deserves time and space to fully process.
5. Rebuild Self-Trust Slowly
Make new agreements with yourself:
I will honor my instincts - even if others don’t agree.
If someone demands I override my truth, that’s a red flag.
My clarity is more important than anyone’s approval.
I can trust again- and I will, slowly.
Self trust doesn’t come back through force. It returns through consistency and honesty.
The Integration Phase: What Now?
You don’t have to become “more healed” to be safe from glamour.
You just need to become more self-governed.
My biggest lesson? Energetic boundaries and never allowing my own discernment to be diminished or dulled.
Journal Prompts For Integration:
What part of me wanted them to be the illusion that I believed in?
Where did I override my gut to stay spiritually “loyal”?
What was I hoping that they would give me that I wasn’t giving myself?
What is my energy no longer available for?
Final Words: Walking Away Is Sacred Work
Walking away from spiritual manipulation isn’t just hard. It’s heroic. Its pulling out all the roots that want to keep you stuck and tethered, going against the grain, and ultimately, choosing yourself.
You’re reclaiming your time, your body, your energy, your voice.
There may be people who don’t understand why you left.
There may even be a part of you that still doubts yourself and wonders if you made it all up.
You didn’t.
You saw clearly.
You chose yourself.
You chose to walk in truth.
You are not broken.
You are not behind.
You have absolutely nothing to feel shame or guilt over.
You are simply no longer under a spell. You have broken free and chosen sovereignty.
And that is sacred.
Next up in The Sovereign Path Series:
Part 2 - Beyond the Glamour - Naming the Other Faces of Energetic Manipulation
Part 3 - 11 Red Flags of A False Guide
Because naming the pattern is how we stay sovereign.
Because seeing the truth isn’t just for healing - it is what empowers us.